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I'm sorry to hear that you are going threw this. I myself have been going threw that also. And I know very well how you must be feeling. I've been married for 15 years, and found out that my husband was cheating a couple of years back. I tried to save my marriage because of my kids, and because at that time I still loved him. But I have Not been able to put it behind me, specially after finding out that he gave me a STD. Even with that proof, he still denies cheating on me. I know that he has been the only sexual partner I've had. He can't even be Man enough to admit the truth!

Anyway, it's been 5 years that I tried saving my marriage, but I found out that it was the worst thing that I could of try to do,  because things have only gotten worse. I No longer trust this man, and all that love that I once felt for him have only turned into hate. I know that "Hate" is not a good thing, but that is what happens when you finally realize that they played with you love, your heart, your mind, but most important one of all, risking Your health and your life...

I hope that you can heal from this soon. Keep busy with friends and family, start thinking of YOU. I've learned the hard way. But I have my 3 little Blessings and those are my kids. I will Now will be filling for a divorce. I know that there will be a lot of bumpy roads ahead, but it's better then to continue being unhappy. Believe me, things will only get worse before they get better. All my best wishes to you. May God Bless you and help you heal soon.

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the pain will end you will see it took a while but now i think i am okey i dont hurt as much i guess i see him for what he is and i am not scared you will be okey i now it feels like it will never end the pain inside just grows keep busy focus on other things do thing for yourself to make yourself feel better it will not happen right away but it will happen you will see best of luck !

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I am sorry that you are going thru this.  I to went thru this recently and my divorce was finalized in March of this year.  My husband had been cheating on me since October, 2007 and of course denied the whole thing even though I had proof.  The day he finally admitted it was the day of our hearing, the coward.  Anyways, I agree the pain does not stop but it will fade away eventually.  You have to realize that you did nothing wrong and you need to take care of yourself thru all this.  Don't dwell on him and the other person, because you know what, I believe that what goes around comes around and they will have their day.  Don't let negative thoughts control you or your day.  Just take one day at a time.  Join a support group if you have one where you live.  I just joined one and it has really helped me out alot just to be able to see other people around me going thru the same thing I am.  Get support from friends and family in all this and by all means take care of yourself.  Again you didn't do anything wrong here and you can face yourself in the mirror each day and not feel guilty.  You will be fine and move on, just take each day as it comes and don't jump in head first.  It's not easy, but no one ever said that life was going to be easy.  Good luck to you.

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The pain will not stop soon but will fade in time. Lots of other emotion will come between now and then. Hold on tight to yourself because it's a roller coaster that no one wants to ride.

The "pit" will ease when you feel more anger than hurt. Get yourself busy with thinking about yourself and what it will take for you to be happy. Forget about revenge, grudges, blame, and the inevitable why's, when's, how's that will come rushing to you over the coming weeks, months and yes, even years. I am sorry for you.

Don't spend a lot of energy on him and her. Spend all that energy on yourself. You will be happier in time. I promise.

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