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yep - exactly.

 

it's like when you are a little kid, and you beg and plead to your parents for this one toy - and you beg and you please and you beg for months and months on end, and when they finally give in - you've grown out of the toy - and it just isn't as fun as it wuld have been if you had gotten it when you first asked for it.

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what do you mean by too little too late symdrome?  that it is too late for him to fix it now?  That's is how I feel.  It's too late.

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I think you are suffering from too little too late syndrome.

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Jowi,
I have written to you before. I still feel he is a narcissists. There isn't a classic form. There are different ones than a definition in a dictionary. He will change for a while but as soon as everything settles down he will revert back to his old self. Go to the library and really research the subject. Not just one book; but several. I promise it will answer a lot of questions for you.
Your instincts are right. Listen to them. It takes time for a person to change and small changes at that. He is making big changes isn't he? He doesn't want to lose the person who makes his life function without a lot of effort on his part.
I know three of us who married narcissists. Each one is different but it is still all about them. Unfortunatley they get worse with age. That's how we were able to finally  recognize what they were. Mine was somewhat like your husband and I was lonely for 33 years. Even when he was home he just wasn't "there".
Here's a book for you if you can find it: Loving the Self-Absorbed by Nina W. Brown the ISBN number is 1-57224-354-6
I don't mean to be pushy and if I am I apologize. But it is not fun living with a person like that. Again I wouldn't wish them on my worst enemy.

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