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Can Couples Come Back After a Separation?

It happens all the time.  Couples split and decide to call it quits.  Sometimes though, that time apart is what the couple needs to draw back together.

 

"Most people consider reconciling because the emotional bond is there, and they are still attracted to each other, " Says Dr. Angelo Contino, a marriage counselor. "Most couples never really get over each other."

 

How do you know if you stand a chance? Therapist Aldo Fossella says reconciliation requires three components: compatibility, passion, and intimacy. Beyond that, "If you have these components and the reason the relationship failed was a practical identifiable reason versus a lack of connection or chemistry, you have a chance [of reconciling]."

 

Fossella  says that "practical identifiable reasons" are things like financial reasons, meddling in-laws, or trust issues. If you've identified one of these factors in your relationship, you need to come up with a solution and put those strategies into place.

 

It may not always work, but it does give hope to couples who reconsider divorce, and contemplate reconciliation as an option.

 

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I wish it would work more than it does. It is a shame...but many times the hurt it bigger than the person....and the wounds are too deep.

  by mtnvly
Posted on 5/13/2008 4:30 PM

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I don't mean to split hairs here Mtnvly, but I think if adultery is the issue, final decision or not, it needs to stop if you're even thinking of getting back together.

  by Robert-Boyd
Posted on 5/13/2008 4:23 PM

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I would say yes they can. Sometimes the seperation is just what they need to figure out if they want to stay together.
If adultery has taken place then it needs to stop until a final decision is made.

  by mtnvly
Posted on 5/13/2008 8:40 AM

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