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Support during seperation and/or divorce.

I am hoping to get some quick advice before looking for an attorney. I live in California and my soon to be ex-wife and I are currently separated. She has been living with her boyfriend for the past four months. They live out of town and she had recently gotten pregnant by him, then they had that taken care of. I’ve been living with my son, who visits his mother on the weekends, and taking care of him and all his needs. She does not work and says that she can not work because they live to far away from public transportation; she does not drive and also has headaches. So I’ve been giving her $300 every two weeks to help out with groceries and what ever she might need. She tells me that this is not enough but this is all I can afford to give. I have a ton of bills to pay and support my son as well. I’ve heard that she was trying to get an attorney to get more money during the separation. She has agreed in email, text messages, and instant messages that she will not pursue alimony or child support, we are filing for joint custody of our son.  

What legal grounds does she have to get more money from me during separation? Also, if she’s been in a known and documented relationship with another man during the marriage is she still able to get alimony?

by chachi    13 Posts   
Posted on 4/30/2008 2:03 AM    
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crap - not near me -

 

let me dive into the rolodex and see who I can come up with for you to talk to...gimme a few days...

by spaznskitz   2871 Posts
Posted on 4/30/2008 6:26 PM
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I'm in the San Diego area.
by chachi   13 Posts
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She doesn't have a right to the $300 she is getting out of you now if I were your attorney I'd be telling you to tell her to pound sand. She has a bf, let him support her - what the heck are you sending money for him to live off of for????

 

stop it right now.

 

unless you are court ordered by a judge you don't send a single solitary dime.

 

She has abandoned your marriage - and in fact should be paying YOU because you have custody of the child. It's called child support.

 

stop getting walked all over - call her and tell her she better go buy a good pair of waslking shoes since she is going to have to hoof it to the bus to get a job.

 

hire an attorney, file for divorce & full custody of your son, ca is a no fault community property state, but the fact she abandoned your marriage and committed adultry will pretty much ensure she doesn't get a dime.

Actually, where are you in CA? If you are close to me, hell, I'll represent you.

I'm a family law attorney

by spaznskitz   2871 Posts
Posted on 4/30/2008 3:00 AM
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