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Letters/affidavits

My lawyer wants 6 letters from various people in my life stating my character, what they know of me, etc.  He mentioned that perhaps my husband could be mentioned in some way...if I understand correctly, he means not especially good things.  Maybe shortcomings, incidents, etc.  Am I correct?  Also, should family members write these as well as friends, employee, etc?
by santafe 
Posted on 4/29/2008 6:47 PM    
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What exactly is done with the letters?  Are they read by the judge only, or lawyers?  Who reads them and are they read aloud in court?
by santafe  56 Posts
Posted on 4/30/2008 10:07 PM
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you don't want to coach your letter writers - they all will end up with the same pattern and the judge/evaluator will assume they were dictated by you rather than just requested - and that won't look good.

You ask for the letters and you simply state if you want to write anything about x, you can do that too - don't elaborate. If they do write anything, it has to be thier own personal feeling or experience with him - not something they heard or assume you feel.

In other words, they can't put you on a pedestal and him under a rock - the court will know they are coearsed.

Have them more from friends & co-workers than family - family is "too loyal" and too close to the case.


I'm a family law attorney
by spaznskitz  1217 Posts
Posted on 4/29/2008 9:57 PM
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