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concerned brother in law

I live in South Florida my Sister in Law is going through a divorce now and the judge ordered a 50/50 Split in child custody. Now here is where it gets tricky MY sister in law Home schools the 2 oldest they have 4 the other 2 are 1&2 years old and are NOT being taught the Husband is a BSO deputyAnd is NOT paying Support right now and he goes to work during the Day shift and she is forced to work at night because she has to teach the 2 oldest durung the day. but when it is his turn to have the kids full time and the oldest 2 have to come over to the Mom's house to be schooled he brings the other 2 little ones over to be watched while he goes to work now if it is his time to have the kids should he be able to bring the other 2 over so that mom has to watch them while she is suppose to be schooling the oldest 2 if so then that is not considered a 50/50 split and therefore she should get more in the settlement or he must find and pay a babysitter to watch the other 2 little ones while he is at work and must make arrangments to have the kids picked up after schoolis out because under the agreement it is his turn to have the kids for 5 days he is taking advantage of the mother by making her watch them during the time he is suppose to have them but when it is her turn to have them and she has to work she has to make arrangments to have the kids watched while she is at work i don't feel that is fair to her and it is NOT a 50/50 split is there anything that she can do the make this work? thank you%0d%0a David.S

by broinlaw 
Posted on 4/29/2008 6:20 PM    
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she has three choices:

A) live with it because it means her kids aren't with some stranger (because even in 50/50 the parent can be the child care provider and it still is a 50/50 arrangement)

B) sit down with her ex and expalin the problem and come up with a solution together as to what to do with the two little ones (like parents should do)

C) get the court involved.

these are the temp orders, not the final divorce agreement - what is going on now has no bearing on the final settlement agreement. It's called a temporary order for a reason - it covers the basic needs while they hammer out the final details.


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  by spaznskitz
Posted on 4/30/2008 4:19 AM

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No  it's not my brother he married into my wife's family and No i don't feel the Judge looked into all the issues throughly. that's what i think! so where could we go from here??

  by broinlaw
Posted on 4/29/2008 7:07 PM

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If he has to work, what is he suppose to do? The court usually looks at each situation and determines the support accordingly. If she doesnt want to spend time with her younger children, then he should find appropriate child care. Its a very different situation. Isnt this your brother you are talking about? Im sure the judge looked at all of the aspects before he/she made their decision but if she finds it unfair, she can always take him back to court.

  by Lori-Woodall
Posted on 4/29/2008 6:48 PM

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