Question

Posted to group - Should I Stay or Should I Go

<<Previous Next>>

Do I go back to try again for the 3rd or 4th time ?

I posted this on another forum [url=http://www.relationship-forums.com/showthread.php?t=15407]here[/url]

I know she is hurting and wants me back. But for me I don't think I love her anymore, although I say it it just doesn't not ring true anymore in me.

I have left the home 3-4 times, threatened to leave a similar number of times as well. Does that say my heart is not in it anymore ?

I am attending joint counselling to help her understand what I am feeling, but I can't bring myself to say, "It is over", for fear of hurting her as she has also lost her father and now she will be losing her husband. She has also lost all her firends over the past few years too! She will be very much on her own.

by optimistnz 2 Posts Posted on 4/28/2008 12:02 AM	send to friend e-mail this from divorce360.com [Do I go back to try again for the 3rd or 4th time ?] - divorce360.com To E-mail: Separate multiple addresses with commas(,) From (Your name) : Your e-mail address: Message:	Log in to Add Friends Message with Invite: Send Friend Invite \| nevermind
Tags: Hurting

0	Flag item :: Why are you flagging item: Message: Submit \| Cancel

read more from user >>

Answers for "Do I go back to try again for the 3rd or 4th time ?" (4) (You must be logged in to answer)

Wow. This is what I'm putting my husband through. And I also do not have the courage to say "it's over". I don't know if kids are involved, but that's one of my obstacles. I don't want anyone to get hurt, but ultimately someone does. I thought about going to counseling to make him understand what I'm feeling, but if I'm not blatantly honest, he is never going to hear those words unless they are said loud and clear. It's a on-going, horrible cycle to have to go through and is draining all my energy and his.

by tactracy24 5 Posts
Posted on 4/30/2008 2:53 PM

hey there

I went and posted to you at the other forum based on what I read there.

by spaznskitz 1927 Posts
Posted on 4/28/2008 5:48 PM

Yes, she will be alone, but at least she will have an answer and she can start the healing process.

Hmmm ... I like that one.

http://www.relationship-forums.com/showthread.php?t=15407

by optimistnz 2 Posts
Posted on 4/28/2008 2:41 PM

your pasted url didn't work...

look, all you are doing is hurting her heart more by keeping her in this limbo of not knowing, and worse, threatening to leave, leaving, coming back over and over - could you handle walking around in a revolving door for months on end, never knowing when you can get spit out of it?

Yes, she will be alone, but at least she will have an answer and she can start the healing process.

by spaznskitz 1927 Posts
Posted on 4/28/2008 5:11 AM

Divorce360.com is not a substitute for advice from a lawyer, accountant, financial planner, therapist or other professional to obtain advice. Divorce360.com is not intended to, and should not, take the place of professional advice. The opinions expressed in the divorce360.com message boards are those of the author and the author alone. Divorce360.com does not endorse any specific product or service.

divorce360.com provides help, advice and community for people
contemplating, going through or recovering from divorce and the issues around it,
including separation, divorce laws, spousal support and emotional issues.

Question

Do I go back to try again for the 3rd or 4th time ?

e-mail this from divorce360.com

Flag item ::

Flag item ::

Flag item ::

Flag item ::

Flag item ::

popular blogs

get/give answers

expert Q&As

help you budget and plan

definitions from "alimony" to "writ of execution"

divorce, custody and child support links by state

get help now

divorce360.com provides help, advice and community for people contemplating, going through or recovering from divorce and the issues around it, including separation, divorce laws, spousal support and emotional issues.

Community :: Should I Stay or Should I Go :: Answers

Question

Do I go back to try again for the 3rd or 4th time ?

e-mail this from divorce360.com

Flag item ::

Flag item ::

Flag item ::

Flag item ::

Flag item ::

popular blogs

get/give answers

expert Q&As

help you budget and plan

definitions from "alimony" to "writ of execution"

divorce, custody and child support links by state

get help now

divorce360.com provides help, advice and community for people
contemplating, going through or recovering from divorce and the issues around it,
including separation, divorce laws, spousal support and emotional issues.