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Your attorney is making the right choice to wait 3 months - as much as you want to pounce on him now. The more contempt charges, the more chance the judge will go harder on him. It goes from not understanding the court order, to willfull disregard. Technically, Louisiana is a no-fault divorce state. You can divorce on the grounds that there was adultery - but it isn't like an equitable distribution state where you get a bigger piece of the pie if adultery is proven. LA is a community property state - so it's 50/50 regardless and adultery doesn't have much of a bearing on custody or visitation, unless you are in front of an uberconservative judge. Unless you two were in a covenant marriage - and I had to look that term up as apparently it is only recognized in 3 states, but it came up in the statutes when I was reading about adutery, then it's a much larger factor.
I need to know what state you are in to give you any specific advice. Who is telling you what is "wrong"?Also, the only thing you have control over, and I'm assuming this text is in your separation agreement "neither parent, shall have a member of the opposite sex around the children durning overnight visitation" is if she stays overnight - to prove that, you need to hire an PI and have his home watched. His roommate could be called, but he could also lie. You want someone credible as your witness.
As far as having the kids around her during the day, or having her watch them for him - that isn't something you can control. He has a right to have them babysat. You can't prove drug use unless she has been arrested and convicted - again, the PI could find that information out for you. Long story short, unless you can prove RECENT conviction for drug use by this gf, there isn't much you can do other than take him to court for contempt when yuo have multiple proven violations of the agreement of when she can be there.I'm a family law attorney
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