And to answer your question, my boyfriend does not get involved with the relationship between his ex and his kids. Can't say the same about her...constant calls, being told what to do and where to go with them.

Amen, my boyfriend's ex is constantly calling to tell him what to do vis a vis their daughter. Maureen 78 is rare indeed!

Boy do I wish my boyfriends ex were more like you Maureen78. You seem to be rare......

I totally agree!

You would always want to try and foster a good relationship between your child and his or her other parent, but it can work for and  against you.  I always try to talk to my child, instead of my spouse. I address my child's concerns and try to help him see things positively and honestly.  Be honest with the child...always.  The way I look at it is, my soon to be ex and I are no longer together in any way.  The only thing we have in common is our child.  I divorced him because talking to him became pointless.I'll share fun facts and things with him about or son, or tell him what we are working on (like potty training or learning ABC's), but as for their relationship, I stay out of it.  It's really not your responsibility.  The best part about that is, that the child will eventually be able to form their own opinion about their other parent.  You will never be accused of tainting the child's mind or giving a biased view of how things really are.  Of course, anything potentially dangerous going on between your child and your ex should be intervened upon immediately, but other than that, you should just leave it be.  I think it will be easier on all of you in the long run.