Should I tell the 'other mans' wife

When I found out my wife was cheating it was the worst pain I have ever felt. For two weeks I was basically non-functional Just as I started to come to terms with what I just found out......I got hit again...

Two weeks later the guy my wife had the affair with tested positive to STD's, went to the doctor at the request of his wife. She delievered the papers to my wife and I got to find this out and the fact that for two months she was having unprotected sex with the both of us!!! I didn't know :(

Then I had the distinct pleasure of having to go to the doctor and get tested for the full spectrum including AIDS, which takes 6 months to find out. Luckily my tests came back negative...

I only wish that someone who knew, like my wifes freinds would have told me since they knew but did not want to hurt me. Know what.......I got hurt anyway and I only blamed the villians, my wife and her boyfriend!

You are a victim as well as her. If her husband is a cheater maybe he sees others also. She will find out anyway  the only question is not if, only when....And your right..she deserves to know

Also and I may be off base here but this is what I think. If he cheats and nobody knows then he gets away with it....able to do it again to someone else and cause some other family pain and suffering.

I would be confronting him and giving him this ultimatum ( tell your wife or I will ). Make him accountable for his actions and maybe he will think twice before doing it again.

I hope I have not offended anyone with this and I so have strong feelings towards cheaters and they are not positive.