When can I 'be bad'?

I caught her cheating a month ago, we're no longer under the same roof. I have these random feelings of wanting to go out and 'be bad too' anyone been there before? It must sound horrible, but, i keep picturing the two of them together, its maddening. anyone ben there before?

by sckain 21 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 3:25 PM

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Tags: cheating spouse , lonliness , 'revenge'

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If your asking when you can be bad, then you are of moral stature that you won't anyway because your personal integrity would not allow you to.

However those feelings of payback, revenge are strong when severe wrong has been served on you. They are also very normal.

Good feelings when going thru this are very few and far between..Sometimes it feels like you are drowing and can't get a breath.........so do what it takes to feel better :) just evaluate that prior so that you only do that which will truly make you feel better and not worse.

Try to do things that will get your mind on other things......I know its hard..very hard.....however having many friends and more new ones will help.

by blackout 7 Posts
Posted on 4/28/2008 4:42 PM

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I think that's the hardest thing, that the person that hurt me the most is the one I would usually seek comfort from. Who is there to hold me and comfort me while I'm feeling miserable? And I totally agree with the other remarks; being 'bad too' will not make you feel happy and being happy would be the best revenge. So find some things that uplift you. Hang in there, you'll get through it. We all will. One day we'll look back and think..."gee, I felt like crap over that person?!"

by Emeraldsky 175 Posts
Posted on 4/27/2008 10:02 PM

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I tried that during my seperation and it kept me busy but it didn't make me feel better. I felt worse.
Also...don't put on your beer goggles.

by cutdeep 93 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 5:13 PM

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i agree. it's horrible having someone make a mockery of your marriage and trust.

by Vicki 856 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 3:42 PM

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Thanks or the voice of reason ... It's weird, I just want to be held, hugged and felt cared for. This sucks.

by sckain 21 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 3:40 PM

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yes. many of us have been there...and many of us are still there right now..going through this. it's really hard. but if you go out and do this, won't it really just hurt someone else, some stranger? why not try to get 'revenge' by finding a way to be happy. your happiness might just make her crazy, and but it will also make you feel better....

by Vicki 856 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 3:34 PM

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