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My husband and I are divorcing after 23 years of marriage. My concern at this point is that I have been out of the workforce for about two years and have not been able to find a job yet. I am walking away with a small amount of money, a car, and about $25,000 of debt. The divorce is amicable and we are still living in the same house. He says I can stay for up to six months if I need to but I want out as quickly as possible, obviously.
I'm not even sure why I'm posting this except that I have no friends and my family is far away. I guess I would just like some input, help, advice, whatever. Thanks.

by Trisharae    8 Posts   
Posted on 4/25/2008 3:15 PM    
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Please don't get the wrong idea. I know that I can make it on my own. The job hunt is a little depressing because it is taking longer than I had hoped, but it will happen.
I really don't want alimony even if I could get it. Once this is over I want it to be over. We get along fine and have just moved our relationship to a different level. Roommates. Nobody cheated, nobody's angry, it's just time to move on. We don't want or believe in the same things anymore.
Yes, I am worth every penny he has spent on me but I am not interested in having him continue to "take care of me" after I start working and making money.

I want out as soon as possible, not because he is pressuring me or being mean to me, he's not. I just want to start my new life. 

by Trisharae   8 Posts
Posted on 4/26/2008 11:56 AM
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i agree you need to be strong , do you know what your saying to yourself...  your not worth it !... keep saying and believing
that your worth every penny you have to keep saying that to yourself... you wasted 23 yr.s of your life . for what ? you have to fight for what you want. please do it for  yourself.....
by blinded62   2 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 11:44 PM
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Alimony won't be an option actually - since you are able to work, and it hasn't been that long since you didn't.

why not look at renting a room in a home somewhere until you can save up enough to get a place of your own?

 

 

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by spaznskitz   2500 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 9:25 PM
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He feels that since he's been paying all the bills including the payments on my debts for the last two years that he's done his part. He says he will help me if it's an emergency, but I think i would rather live in the car.
by Trisharae   8 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 6:12 PM
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welcome to the group.  are you sure you don't want to get alimony?  why would you walk away with only 6 months of free rent?  it may take you some time to find a job or go back to school, why not strike a better deal for yourself?  after 23 years, i think you deserve it, no?
by Vicki   854 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 3:17 PM
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