Now what?

My wife and I have been married nearly 26 years.  When I married her she had two children from two previous marriages.  I helped raise two beautiful girls into responsible adults.

I'm the primary breadwinner, when we married I'd already graduated university and was working on a Masters.  I've always been employeed, for the past 15 years at increasing levels of executive positions. 

I knew less than 1 year into the marriage it was probably a mistake.  Sex dropped way off, I began feeling like a tool.  Just something used for my paycheck, manpower and child-rearing support.  We fought a lot. 

We tried several counselors, quacks, spent a lot of money but had no success. 

I did not realize how much being a child of alcoholic parents affected me and I was severly depressed. It was pretty easy not to notice how emotionally messed up I was because my wife was in even worse shape having come from an extremely loud disfunctional family. 

I was on a self-distructive course and closer than ever to a divorce when I found a good counselor that helped both my wife and I through some tough times.  

Now, 5 years later, I'm in the best job of my life (we had to move 200 miles away) and we are ready to divorce again.  No intimacy, constant fighting, more story than I can tell here.  

Now I feel worse about leaving because of all the changes (moving, her giving up her job and friends), but I know I'll never be happy.