Uncontested Divorce

when it comes to the custody of the kids - have you addressed ALL issues? IE what happens if someone wants to move? what will you do if one needs a change in the visitation? what is your feeling about having someone your spouse is dating around your child(ren)? who is responsible for medical, dental? What about if the child wants to go to college? What are you going to do if a child's extracurricular activity interferes with visitation? How many phone calls to the kids is too many? what if you want to take a vacation out of state - what do you need to provide to the other parent?

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I'm a family law attorney

We also are going for a dissolution (uncontested) with shared custody of the kids. We also agree about how to split assets and how to  cover joint debt. She already has spoke with a lawyer about this but we have yet to file. My advice would be if at all possible, keep yourself together for the kids. Life does go on and they will definitely need you through this tough period. My soon to be ex and myself are taking on more of a friendship role towards each other. We are definitely focused on the mental health and safety of our kids. If at all possible try to remain amicable towards each other, especially around the kids. I would definitely start to seek out a lawyer you are comfortable with. Most lawyers will grant you an initial free consultation. My thoughts are that as the ex continues forward, i want someone that can explain and look out for my best interest as well. If your wife has a problem with you seeking other counsel, I would wonder about her motives going forward. I basically told my wife that now I have to be selfish and think of me for a change and do what's best. Because we are trying to do this with as little fighting as possible, I am confident that we can reach an amicable solution. While you still must look out for yourself, at this point in your life, if you truley love your children, do everything possible to make them feel loved and cared for. They are your legacy. Good luck.

My divorce was uncontested. In S.C, you must use an atty. to get a divorce. No do it yourself divorces. It went very smoothly. I filed on adultery in May 2006 and did the divorce in stages. Temp. support and then the property settlement. I dropped the adultery charges in March 2007 and refiled on 1 year separation. Finally divorced on Dec. 11 2007. We did this to keep my health insurance as long as possible. By we, I mean my very good but expensive attorney. I saved enough by not paying for health insurance to offset his charges. My ex didn't seem to be in a hurry and I think he was worried about going to court. He never made an appearance. His atty. appeared for him. I must state though that he wanted the divorce. He just didn't want to look like the bad guy. He married in 2005 and didn't want to acknowledge he had committed bigamy. He still says he didn't marry her; but I have a copy of their marriage license.
If you can stay on "friendly " terms and work together to find a mutual solution it will be cheaper and easier on everyone. Just make sure you know about all money matters and who is to get what. Run everything past your atty. If you are splitting retirements you will need to file QDROS. That will have to go before a judge to be approved.  It will be easier on the children if the divorce stays friendly and you both speak kindly about the other. Even though our daughter is 28 it helped her that we got along and didn't argue. Once the decision is made why make everyone miserable with dirty little stunts and talking bad about your soon to be ex. I have always treated my ex with respect and will continue to do so.

My friend paid an attn for like 2 hours and just talked to 'em about the deal.  Turns out she had been told she had no right to an asset that she actually did.  I dont know the specifics, but it saved her a ton!  Something to consider!

I have! Just make sure you read everything before you meet with the judge. Wish you the best.