I earn more than he does

I earn almost twice as much as my husband does. I want to be sure he doesn't benfit from this because he has no goals to earn more and has not really for the past 10 years. I , on the other hand , have changed jobs 3 times and have moved up the ladder each place I have worked. I have been reading articles, and I am not sure I understand. Will I have to apy HIM??? We have 2 children, and I think it is important for them to see him as much as they see me. I don't want to attempt full custody because I don't think in this situation it woudl be fair. What does anyone know or think about this?

by jowi 22 Posts
Posted on 4/24/2008 7:45 AM

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I did some research - I don't think you are going to get hit with maintenance (NY struck the word alimony in 1980)

the only reason he'd get maintenance from you would be to keep him in the life accustomed - but unfortunately for him, that part of the statute was repealed in 1986

now it is only awarded, and for a temporary period to help an "injured spouse" get on their feet and independent.

He's working - I'm sure you two have a home that something is going to happen with where he profits from - along with other assets - there would be no reason for him to receive anything. If he tries for it, fight it.

by spaznskitz 3855 Posts
Posted on 4/28/2008 7:01 AM

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I live in New York State, and he does have a job. If I could do this eactly the way I wanted to , we would have joint custody.

by jowi 22 Posts
Posted on 4/28/2008 6:05 AM

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Ok hold up the poster below is mistaken

Alimony/spousal support requirements have become quite strict, yes it gets awarded to both men and women, but there are many more factors that are considered now, and if the spouse in employed, weighs heavily against them receiving anything.

Let me know your state and I'll give you a better idea on what the factors are

I'm a family law attorney

by spaznskitz 3855 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 9:53 PM

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Unfortunately you may get very screwed in a divorce settlement. These days judges are awarding alimony and child support regardless of sex, and women who make more than their husbands are likely to get hit with either or both. You really need to consult a lawyer asap to sort this out before you file for divorce, or even tell him you want a divorce. Your best bet may be to ask for full physical custody with him getting generous visitation. This will mean you won't have to pay child support but you still may get stuck for alimony. I ran a divorce support group and heard this story from women who were divorcing their lazy husbands who they supported reluctantly for years. The irony was they still had to support them AFTER the divorce. Grrrrr. Good luck!!!

by EricaManfred 247 Posts
Posted on 4/25/2008 7:52 PM

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