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Divorced, alone and thriving at 50 and older?

I am looking for other divorced people over 50 (I just turned 60). The loneliness factor is my main concern after a 31 year relationship. I have great friends, a great therapist, great financial guy and after two lawyers, found a great lawyer. After working with my husband's business for 28 years plus other small jobs and lots of volunteering (at kid's school), I would like to find a fulfilling part time job and am starting by volunteering. I lack the computer skills for a business job, so after taking a mental health curriculum certificate course, I'm searching in the social services area, but there is no money out there. I don't have to work, but I HAVE to work for my own well being and passion to help others. I have two grown children 26 & 29 who live far away, no family close by, except my x's who still care about me, but who I can longer see at holidays, so I'm alone at holidays now, except for a "visit" from my kids. I only have one sister also far away with a busy life. Thus, I would like to join a group for company, ideas for things to do at this age as a woman alone after so many years a part of a large loving family system. I wonder if there are other men or women out there in this situation? I'm ready to see if there is a new life I can make for myself and would love to hear how others in this age bracket are thriving living alone again after so many years with a companion and intact family.   djsell

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Posted on 4/23/2008 10:19 AM
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Hi,
I am recently divorced 60+ and doing well. My ex was gone a lot so my life hasn't changed that much. I have control of the small farm we owned for the next 5 years. I try to ride at least one horse a day and do most of the work on the farm myself. Like you I have no family around so I am pretty much on my own. My daughter is much like her father. Only calls when she wants something.
There are trade offs in my life. When I found this property it became the home I never felt I had. I live 12 miles from town. I get these wonderful sunrises and sunsets that are awesome. Sometimes very large rainbows after a storm. In the winter I only have one neighbor close by. The loneliness is offset by the wonderful home I have been blessed with.
I haven't worked for wages in a long time. Trust me; the work I do on the farm is far harder than most people do. It has kept me fit and healthy. Since the divorce I have made a couple of friends.
I do need to find a job to beef up my savings but don't know how I can find the time. I have worked two jobs before to help with my daughters college tuition. My life is very full of things I truly enjoy doing.
by trisha9054   1901 Posts
Posted on 4/23/2008 11:17 PM
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Welcome!  Far be it for me to tell you how to do this - sounds like you got the right plan.  There are def a number of people on here who fit the bill, they must have missed your post.  I think many of my friends your age are in to hobbies (golf and gardening are big here in Florida), and I think your idea of working is a good one - a relative recently ivorced and is taking a job in a dr's office - she reasoned she would meet many people, liked the hours, and she really really needed to get out of the house - this forced her to do just that!   good luck!  keep us posted!
by oct15   175 Posts
Posted on 4/23/2008 8:40 PM
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