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I am SO confused!

I have been married to my husband for almost 14 years and have two children (9 and 11).  I had a short term affair three and a half years ago and just had another affair that lasted five months and am still talking to him.  I love my husband but don't feel that I am in love with him any more.  He makes very good money and I am terrified to leave because of that and the kids.  I think I keep having affairs because I am loney.  He travels a lot and I don't feel close anymore.  I am so afraid of the unknown and hurting the kids.
by nanster    42 Posts   
Posted on 4/23/2008 8:32 AM    
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Nanster,

 

I'm not trying to be judgemental, but if you are lonely/have too much time on your hands......Have you thought of finding employment or furthering your education to obtain one???
by starr1   187 Posts
Posted on 5/2/2008 3:34 AM
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Honestly I think you need to leave your husband.  Cheating is not an answer to any situation.  If you are unhappy then you should leave and rebuild your life.  You are not setting a good example for your children and you are not being faithful to your husband.  Stop the affairs now, leave the marriage, and then be with whoever you wish.  My motto has always been....if you are not happy then leave before you hurt someone.  Another option if you still love your husband is to try counseling, but you need to do something.  By the way....staying for financial reasons is not a good reason either.  Good luck!
by JLK   289 Posts
Posted on 4/30/2008 9:27 AM
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To Spaznskitz:

I'm happy for you.  Unfortunately, you don't know the whole story since I cannot type 20 pages.  We are getting divorced and I am trying to make it as painless as possible for the children.
by nanster   42 Posts
Posted on 4/30/2008 9:11 AM
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to answer your question

I'm an attorney and I give free legal advice - I've been happily married over 18 years...
by spaznskitz   2622 Posts
Posted on 4/30/2008 7:15 AM
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