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Put the Geni BACK into the Bottle

My girlfriend is legally disabled and has been ever since her husband (now EX) went off his meds and beat her senseless.  She was hospitalized for over a week with fractured skull.  She is now a Katrina survivor and no longer holds a "dual residency" in Mississippi and Kentucky because UNKNOWN to her, she was divorced in Michigan.

Her EX husband is a legally disabled (mentally schizoid & NOT a vegetable) Vietnam Vet for whom she used to have legal guardianship.  The now EX (while OFF his meds) "ran away" to his parent's home in Mobile, Alabama (while they were in MS).  The parent's IMMEDIATELY "shipped him" to his sister's home In MICHIGAN.

There  in Michigan (and out of reach from his wife who was his legal guardian), he was committed to a Veteran's Hospital.  The sister applied for (in Michigan) legal custody/legal guardianship of her brother.  She was granted guardianship (my girlfriend didn't know WHERE her husband was or how to contact him as HIS parents lied and said they hadn't heard from him).

Once granted "legal" guardianship (I assume illegally because at the time, my girlfriend was UNAWARE), the sister STOPPED her brother's disability checks (and ALL money) from coming to his wife (my girlfriend) AND pursuant to Michigan law, FILED for DIVORCE (on his behalf as his legal guardian) in the county where "they" lived.

Upon receiving notice of the pending divorce, my girlfriend (now seriously financially strapped) from the loss of their "combined disability" AND paying their TWO mortgages on their TWO homes, hired a Michigan attorney -- long distance, and stopped the divorce.  She was successful.

At this point, she was staying in Kentucky, living in the home "they" had purchased after they were married AND AFTER she sold the home SHE OWENED PRIOR to their marriage.

She was paying a mortgage note alone, on two separate homes; one in Kentucky and one in Mississippi, BOTH purchased and financed with the money from the sale of HER home prior to the this marriage.  With her husband now in Michigan, and under the "control" of his sister, my girlfriend was left broke, struggling to keep both mortgages current and both properties maintained.  She wished to sell the Kentucky property and move to the warmer state of Mississippi because she could not afford to heat their Kentucky home on her fixed disability income.  Sale of the Kentucky property (she had been paying for alone) was impossible because the sister-in-law demanded total & complete ownership of the property for her brother.  My girlfriend had paid for (to originally purchase and then through her making the monthly mortgages, taxes and insurance ALONE), the home, had HER equity in it, but both she and her husband were both listed as "owners".

This situation went on for two+  more years or so.  During this time, she ultimately rented out the Kentucky home to off-set her high over-head and meet her expenses as she received NO MONEY what-so-ever from her husband who was responsible for permanently disabling her.

 Meanwhile UNKNOWN to her,  the sister-in-law AGAIN filed for a divorce in a DIFFERENT MICHIGAN COUNTY and COURT!  THIS time, for whatever reason, my girlfriend NEVER RECEIVED NOTICE of this second pending divorce action! 

As a result, my girlfriend was NOT represented WHATSOEVER , AND the Judge NOT KNOWING ANY of the TRUE circumstances, put the UNCONTESTED divorce through.

My girlfriend not only didn't receive any alimony, or "rehabilitation" money (they were married for 10 years+-, or money for school  to retrain(she could no longer support herself through her former occupation as a result of her skull fracture and ensuing complications--she also has 6 vertebrae that are causing her immense pain), ANY medical reimbursement for the hospitalizations, on-going doctor visits, or medications; NO money, NOTHING.  Worse yet, after she had paid the mortgage, insurance, taxes and maintenance for five years on TWO properties, the Judge awarded the Kentucky property to the ex-husband (sister-in-law).  The Kentucky property had an appraisal value of three times the Mississippi property.  Worse yet, after the
now EX-husband left my girlfriend, the sister-in-law filed paperwork with the veterans' administration stating she had had custody of her brother for the previous two years (a blatant lie) and my girlfriend had her disability checks garnished to repay the veteran's administration for the two years she DID take care of her husband!

Obviously my girlfriend was screwed.  MY question is this: "Can't this illegally finalized divorce be CONTESTED (unfortunately after the fact) because it was obtained under such fraudulent circumstances?  Can't my girlfriend at least received SOME type of compensation for her losses and permanent disability from her husband?  I know the house was sold.  I assume the sister has/had the money.  Is it possible to put the Genie BACK into the bottle?????  My girlfriend is on a fixed income of $600 a month.  You can live (EVEN in Mississippi) on THAT kind of money!!!!  Is there Anywhere or ANY one who  can HELP her???  Thank you.


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Posted on 4/22/2008 2:56 PM
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I am so sorry for your pain!  Her situation is complicated, she def needs a lawyer!
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