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at what ages can a child decide that they do not want to see the other parent. I have a 15 yr and 11 yr old boys. They really do not want to go to their fathers on the weekends, even though I make them go. I feel that it is in their best interest, even though dad has "tunned out". THey are really angry at him right now and I am trying to promote visitation, even though they do not want it.

by dyben 536 Posts
Posted on 4/21/2008 5:52 AM

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There is only one state that has statutes that allow for a child to choose regarding living situation and visitation, and that is Georgia and the child has to be 14.

Any other state, you can be held in contempt of court for denial of visitation anytime until the child is 18. Unless, the visitation is stopped by mutual agreement and a modification is made to the court order to reflect it to protect everyone's interests.

You may want to consider getting you kids into counseling to help them with their anger at dad & explain to them that you understand how they feel, but since you are divorced, there is a third parent involved in your life now that makes the rules - the court.

by spaznskitz 3855 Posts
Posted on 4/23/2008 1:21 AM

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I would have to agree with all the other answers & they will appreciate your efforts when they get older! Just remember not to put dad down or share your personal hurt in front of them, as this could encourage their disinterest! Take Care!

by mommajenn 2 Posts
Posted on 4/22/2008 6:07 PM

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As long as they are not in harms way then try but from personal expeirence dont push so hard and push them away from you.

by flanery 2 Posts
Posted on 4/22/2008 2:37 PM

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You are doing the right thing. Keep it up. Your kids need their dad in their life. I would assume when they are 18 they can decide when to see their father but not sure. Maybe you could all see a counselor to help your kids get through this tough time, maybe even suggest the father attend.

by Barkley 912 Posts
Posted on 4/21/2008 1:51 PM

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I agree with flagirl.

by gomundo2 71 Posts
Posted on 4/21/2008 12:37 PM

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I think you need to continue to promote the visitation, even when they do not want it. I would also suggest some therapy for the boys, so they can talk through their anger. There are a few stories on the site about this topic. Hope this helps.

by Flagirl 286 Posts
Posted on 4/21/2008 8:57 AM

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