Will he be be able to pay less?

On the child support aspect, no, travel expense is just a part of parenting - it is not a variable used to calculate child support si it can't be lowered just because he is the children's taxi service.

 

Virginia also only calculates cs based on incomes only, and not parenting time, so the extra time he spends with them won't lower it either.

 

 

I'm a family law attorney

I have started to reply to shira several times today..I have stayed out of the situation and am doing so even more as per the advise of a family law attorney. My involvement these days is : scheduling the work day so that he is free to do things for his kids, documenting all of the stupid things that go on, ,listening to him cry as he finds that she is trying to stop him from attending an awards banquet for his middle son.
I was uninvolved until she attempted to run my youngest daughter off of the road. She called me and my children trash, and harasses my daughter at church.
There is no communication between them, only her telling him what he needs to do , and laying a guilt trip on him if he is unable. She talks and he is supposed to obey.
I have watched this game for a year  in fact, a year today ( our first date). She does not communicate events the children are in until it is too late( if at all) then tells the kids that he does not care. She schedules things when he is supposed to have them , and the court backs her because "visitation is at her discretion".
My bf is a sweet man who loves his children and only wants time with them. He hates to argue and fight , and that is what she wants, so he avoids it. She has told him ( and he has believed her) that he couldn't divorce her because she filed for separation, that he cannot get into the pool with the kids because they might catch something, 4/1/07 she told him the divorce papers were in process, 5/31/07 she said if he divorces her he will never see the kids again. Recently, he was told that if his son gets a job, he has to take him as it was his idea, but he is supposed to run the kids for things she signed him up for. This is ONLY the tip of the iceberg. She plays games , and because of the control the court has given , he jumps. I have encouraged him to stand up to her. To stop her control. Please read the other things I have written. Your advise for them to talk would be great, wish it were that easy.

I think, that THEY should be able to work something out. Those are his kids, so full custody, visitation or not, those kids are his responsibility, remember that! She may be using the situation to her advantage, but the fact remains that's his kids, and he should be at there after school functions anyway because of support. Be thankful that the ex even has a job, that means that she doesnt have to ask for extra money out of your pocket! I doubt the courts will deduct that out of his child support payments. Your boyfriend and ex wife should have a good sit down. You however, need to stay out of it, you can and should voice your opinions to him however, but dont get into that with her. She may come back to use that against him in court. You dont want to say or do anything to harm the bond he has with his children. Unless you have the ring on your finger, or signature on a wedding certificate, I would stay out of it

That is kind of what I thought. Like I said I have no problem with him doing things with and for his kids. He even got a call from his youngest son asking him to take him to the dr because she wouldn't. All this is done in the work hours.
Seems that it is seeping over into my company and I am not sure what to do about it.

his ex is using him like a RUN BOY!set her straight

We are already trying to do that. There is a court date of 7/10 to settle things about visitation. The problem is that now she wants him to do all this extra stuff for the kids because she has to work until 5pm. 3 days he took the youngest son to school late because his class was learning something that she didn't want him to be a part of. He took him to the orthodontist and now spring sports are going on and he is transporting them every evening. Sometimes it is just oneof them , sometimes it is all 3. Seems to me that that is his responsibility on his visitation days. Am I wrong?

Maybe he can try and change his visitation hours through the courts.  Can he work this out with his ex so that the schedule works for everyone?