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I have been a Military spouse for 11yrs almostg 12 in may.Hubby left about a yr ago saying he is seeking a divorce I have yet to get papers. However he was giving me 1850 amonth to live on to support 6 people we have 5 kids 3 being only his we are station here in fl where the law is crazy. My rent is 1000 by itself and car note 360 not to mention the daily household bills ie electric,water. So I apply for assistants not knowing when u do so you have to flie for child support by us still being legally married its called administrive support. at the time when this all happen I worked part time as a cust serv rep. making 9.25 at 20 hrs a week. so they order him to pay 1294.14 a month for his 3 kids  he has been the sole provider all these yrs i havent furtherd my education no my job skills because i have been taking care of the kids ranging from 14-5. when he got his order he stated that he didnt have to pay me on the 1st of april because his order starts on the 15th of april so he didnt pay me i went to legal they couldnt help me because they say the court order over rules the navy. so im left with no support and to top it all off got layed off on the 8th of april as well. so now the rent is due car note is  due no money yet and i cant afford to stay here  but he refuses to put me in housing and im still legally married to this creep. My question is can I get Spousal Support started even though we are still married in the state of florida and only have child support order and no divorce has been filed? I cant afford attorny if so I would have been  filed also legal aid said im over income go figure any advice is welcoming.. Thanks  im on the brinks of being homeless if i dont find something lower in rent.

by mom_of_five   2 Posts 
Posted on 4/16/2008 7:03 AM
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I can't believe that that I'm about to give this advice.  Find out who his Commanding Officer is and get a good address to him.  Write up a letter with the information above.  Please have it proof-read for grammar and punctuation.  Give him an advance copy and threaten to send it to his Commanding Officer.  If he refuses to provide the support, then I would send it to his Commanding Officer with a copy of the court order.

 

As a former Officer in the US Navy when I have received a letter like this, I’ve immediately taken the service member to disbursing to start an allotment out of his paycheck directly to his spouse.

Hope this helps.

by favman   19 Posts
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You should be able to get temporary spousal support to help. Things to consider: 1. Call the county clerk's office in your county. See if they have a legal aid office. If they do, perhaps you can get some low-cost legal assistance to help you. 2. If that doesn't work, call three attorneys in town. Ask for a free consultation and see if they will do so. If so, then go speak with them. 3. There's a column on this site called debthelper. It's a credit counseling agency. There's an e-mail for help. See if you can contact them to stave off the creditors while you're taking care of this. Good luck.
by Flagirl   286 Posts
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Hi Mom of 5,
I'm not sure if it is the same in Fla, but in NY I got Temporary Maintenance while going through the divorce. NOT that he paid it! HA! And my kids were grown, so I didn't need it for that, I needed it to get by since I didn't have a full career or training to go out and make decent money right off the bat. In NY if your spouse has been out of the house for a yr or more, it's considered Abandonment and is grounds for Divorce. The sad things is in all of the divorce crap, there are Laws but WHO will make these guys uphold the law and follow through!? My "creep" has violated the Judges directive on what not to do and what to do over and over and nothing has been done. I'm thousands of dollars in debt, most of it to pay my legal fess of $30,000!!!
Keep a record of everything if you can. Get a spiral notebook, keep it by your bed, write down your expenses and what he has or hasn't given you. I went to a site call "women's divorce" to get alot of info. Good Luck.

 

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