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How do I tell them to Butt out

I have made the decision to divorce my husband but my family keeps telling me to stay with him. How do I tell my family to butt out of my business?

by Neshee 5 Posts
Posted on 4/15/2008 11:02 AM

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I have had cousins who were being beaten by their spouse, and then when they asked their mother to move back with them, were told to "work it out." Some families just don't want you to get divorced because they are afraid it will cast a poor reflection on them.
Let them know that you are fully aware of their opinion, that you have considered what they have to say, but that you disagree. They need to respect that there is simply a difference of opinion. You are the only one living in the situation, and it is you and only you who will be responsible for the outcome.
If worse comes to worse, tell them there are things that have influenced your opinion that you don't care to discuss with anyone and leave it at that.

by Rhondaesq 3 Posts
Posted on 5/8/2008 11:02 PM

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Families sometimes think what's best for them is what's best for you. Stick to what your heart believes you should do and you'll never go wrong. Good luck.

by Flagirl 278 Posts
Posted on 4/15/2008 9:27 PM

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i think you lay it out for 'em:

"while is not your business, here is the deal

* im doing this
* heres why (ok to be vague over stuff you dont want to discuss)
* heres why im not staying
* i tried x, y and z
* any questions?

and be done with it...

by oct15 174 Posts
Posted on 4/15/2008 12:23 PM

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