what should i do?

ive been with my husband for 6yrs but have been married for 3yrs. at first we had a great relationship we were always together.
my husband works 12 to 13 hrs a day 6 days a week so basically i dont get to spent time with him. i guess i had too much time in my hands or maybe its just that i felt lonely all i kno is that i fell outta love with him and started having an affair.
now im stuck cuz i kno the best thing to do is to separate but i just dont kno how to do it.
everytime i try talking to him about a separation i end up crying and i let him stay.i dont kno if its that i still have love for him or if i feel guilty all i kno is that its killing me.i dont know what to do anymore.plz can domeone give me some advice?

by bellainbx 5 Posts
Posted on 4/14/2008 4:31 PM

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I'm with you on this one... I had an affair on my husband too. Not because of lack of time with him, but because that time was no longer in friendship or love. He treats me with very little respect. I know that I should not stay with him and that I have other options that are so much better for me. My problem is that all my "friends" and my family hold me at such high standards that I am afraid of disappointing them and hurting our 18 month old son. If it was just how I felt and what I wanted it would be done all ready. Kimabby gave you the advice to tell your husband that you had an affair. It is great advice, but I'm not sure if I could tell my husband. I'm afraid of how he will react and what would come of us. If after I told him he said he wanted to work it out, would I still want to? Not sure you can call this advice, but more of a shoulder to lean on.

by flower_1101 7 Posts
Posted on 4/26/2008 8:37 PM

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thanx guys for the advice i really appreciate it

by bellainbx 5 Posts
Posted on 4/16/2008 11:44 PM

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here is an article that may help you start somewhere: saving your marriage http://www.divorce360.com/Savingmarriage-360.aspx

by jackson 661 Posts
Posted on 4/14/2008 11:11 PM

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I agree with Kimabby, admit it and deal with it. Affairs happen and marriages can survive. Many affairs actually save marriages that have been in trouble and the couples that can forgive and forget go on to have stronger and healthier relationships! Anything is possible, just tell him.

by triguyfl 31 Posts
Posted on 4/14/2008 9:42 PM

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if you haven't toldhim you had an affair yet, you need to start there. you're not going to figure anything out wtihout all the info out there.

by Kimabby 23 Posts
Posted on 4/14/2008 9:16 PM

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