What do I do?

I went to my local court house and got a "poor mans" divorce packet.  I'm having trouble filling it out.   Also, I talked to him a few days ago about division of property.  He said I can have the house as long as I kept making the payments on it.  We have a verbal agreement as to what is my responsibility and what is his.  He gives me a certain percent of his pay, I in turn make the bill payments-they are all in his name.  I believe I should get this in writing--he has not been around to do so.  What should I do next?

You definitely need to move forward with the divorce.  He is not treating you and the children the way he should.  He cannot blame you for everything and himself for nothing.  He should never had said to his children are partly to blame for his behavior.  It is never the children’s fault.  My stbx blamed me for everything too.  He also said very hurtful things to my oldest daughter who is only 4.  He told her once that mommy did not want daddy to go to school with her and she cried the whole way to school that night to our early childhood class.  That was the last straw for me.  Lying to me is one thing, but lying to my girls is another.   After we separated, he visited and when he left he told our girls that he was saying good-bye for forever and that he would never see them again.  My oldest was devastated.  He has seen them since then and my daughter has not mentioned that incident since then, but I cannot forget it.

The divorce has not started yet.  He said he is getting the paperwork, I haven't seen anything yet.  We haven't had any contact in a while.  All we do is argue and I'm blamed for everything.  I'm home taking care of the kids.  He's out working and hanging with his friends.  I told him that being with friends is fine.  I believe he should be with his children too.  He hardly ever sees them.  He is a truck driver.  He is suppposed to be home 2 days a week, but he don't.  The last time he was here he said their was nothing for him here, he wanted to be with his friends so he left.  I care more for the childrens feelings than my own.  They don't understand why daddy's not home when he is supposed to be. I don't know what to tell them.  They know we don't get along.  He has told them they are partly to blame for him not wanting to be around-I told him that was wrong, he didn't care.  What do I do now?

Before you call her, ask yourself what you want out of the call, and why you would do it.  You didn't mention if you were proceeding with the divorce, ie.  attorney, paperwork, etc.  and what stage the process was in.  If the divorce was immenent and it's in the final stages, let him move forward in his life, and try not to hurt the other party.   It's normal to have those thoughts, but acting on them only hurts everyone, and it's not fair to continue or want to damage your soon to be ex and his new girlfriend, or friend, in anyway.  Divorce is hard on everyone, but you need to focus on you and your children and your future, by holding onto the pain it only ends up continuing to destroy you.  Think of it this way, the longer you hold onto the pain and anger and think of ways to be vindictive, control, manipulate and or plan your attack for the settlement and/or move money to protect yourself, the longer you keep that evil man in your head, and he's actually controlling you, and you're letting it happen.  Divorce happens, they suck, but they do get better and both of you deserve a new life, free from each others involvement.  Although this is probably just a rebound, if he was actually in the relationship, deep down it may actually be the real thing and would bring out the amazing side of him that's deserves to come out.  He probably wants that for you as well and your kids deserve to see you both happy and in loving relationships.  Let go of the pain or it will continue to control you, heck you may even end up researching and studying until it turns into an obsession which consumes your new life that's waiting.  It's about your children now, not the past, time to march forward, be a strong soldier!  I've even heard of people holding onto to the anger and pain until it actually made them crazy, i read about one woman who could never let go of the anger that it literally started to make her crazy, probably crazier, and she became addicted to this actual site :)  Life

I agree with Vicki, my unhusband is having an affair with someone he works with and for months they texted eachother. I have over 70 pages of text info(date, time, phone number) and that is for 1 month.

He should be giving his time to you. Get some help and know that you are not alone in this mess. Stay strong!

I called the number in question, but I did not say anything. I can't trust myself to not go crazy so I simply hung up.

I looked up his phone records.  I know her number.  He told me if no because he don't want me to start anything.  If she is "a friend" why can't I.  Should I contact her?

sadly, it sounds like he is having an affair...but even if he isn't, you shouldn't be treated like that.  i think you should seek out some counseling for yourself, to help you deal with the road ahead...and stay strong...you can do this!