We do crave companionship - I know in my case after having Ken leave me for someone else - so much of my wanting or longing for someone else is to validate that I am worthy.  It is only when I REALLY know that  in my heart will I have any business entering into another relationship.  It's so tempting to NOT deal with the hurt - but like Linny says - it is really the best way to do this thing!
Best of luck and try to enjoy you.

Linny, I agree with you on that point.  I am starting to realize that people can sense someone who isn't prepared to honor them fully because they have issues they haven't yet faced.  My wife jumped into another relationship the same week we split up, so I know the guy is a rebound and they won't last either.  Most likely she will do him like she did me and the past boyfriends she has had and cheat and make him miserable as well.  One thing I can say though that made me feel really good about myself is that I saw a picture of the guy on her Myspace page, and let me tell you what...  Anyone who has watched Ren & Stimpy before, the chijuajua from that cartoon is a dead spitting image of him.  All of my friends (female's mainly) have told me that the guy couldn't even hold a candle to me, and that made me feel good too.  But to get back on the subject, I do know now that it is best for me to just stick to finding me again and what makes me happy first.  I need to close the chapter with her first before I can start a new one with someone else.  You guys are great, and I appreciate the advice.  This place has really helped me mature and become more cognizant of how to handle situations like this.  Good luck to all of you and I hope your situations turn out for the best for you.  Take care.

I just learned last night in divorce care that you need to learn to be single again  before you go looking for companionship although I think as humans we are programmed to want that. I am working on my personal spirituality and learning about who I really am and finding joy and peace within myself before I infiltrate someone elses life. I want to dump the baggage before I go right back into the same situation I came from.
A lot of people are seperated and divorced and any experienced dater knows a good candidate for a potential long term relationship is not going to happen with someone who hasn't taken the time to heal from their last breakup. That could part of your issue.  

Let the dust settle, spend some quality time with yourself and once your comfortable with that, then you will be ready to experience the joy of a partnership.

 

Thank you Rache, that's what all my family and friends have been telling me.  I think that I've made a decision that it's time to find myself and enjoy being on my own for once.  I think that once I master the art of being independent and only relying on myself to make me happy, then I can offer someone a better me.  Thank you for the comment.

Honestly, my only advice to you is that you sit back and chill for a little while.  The next person in your life will come along.  There has got to be time for mourning the loss of this relationship.  I don't really think its an issue of "previously married" or "currently separated", it might just be the timing in your life.  Be patient.