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Separated for year from my wife and 8 year old son. They live in New England, I live in Missouri. The papers are ready but have not been filed because lawyers don't seem to be the fastest people in the world. My wife and I suffered a couple of tragic losses while trying to have a child. I haven't been told why we're getting divorced. Just "the two of us went throgh way too much together",

by jackblue 15 Posts
Posted on 4/14/2008 10:59 AM

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I think you should go to an island, maybe in the virgin islands, pick one that's small and remote, romantic, beautiful and expensive( hey if it doesn't work out at least you should stay in style and enjoy the spa). make sure it has activities if you chose to do some, and definately ensure that he will get along with you and if he doesn't that he agrees to get his own room, no reason to ruin a beautiful beach. Take the time to talk to each other, go for walks, don't go into the past, but talk about what you've learned while you've been apart and how you would be different in the future. hold hands, give each other hugs, look into each others eyes, and maybe if it felt right a small soft kiss. who know's but it sounds like fun either way. keep us updated

by triguyfl 31 Posts
Posted on 4/15/2008 12:23 AM

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My wife is not a big believer in communication. It took a year of separation before she apologized for the way she's handled the divorce. Explain vacation to me. :-) In the 8 years my son has been around, we never did anything that wasn't geared towards him. I like Sesame Place as much as the next guy........

by jackblue 15 Posts
Posted on 4/15/2008 12:08 AM

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sounds like you both should get together and talk, maybe take a much needed vacation together, pick an exotic island, and relax and try to enjoy each other. if you both realize that there's still a spark, then really talk it out. focus on your future and how you both would like it to be and not go back and relive how it was, looking for closure on everything would make your mind go nuts searching and trying to reconcile all the facts, and you probably wouldn't believe each other anyway. Give each other a hug and tell them what you either love about them or what you used to love about the person that's no longer there. Anything is possible. Good luck :)

by triguyfl 31 Posts
Posted on 4/15/2008 12:00 AM

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Oh yes! I started seeing a therapist long before the marriage was over. The answers always seem so crystal clear while sitting on the couch. :-)

by jackblue 15 Posts
Posted on 4/14/2008 11:53 PM

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are you seeing a therapist to help you with this?

by Vicki 854 Posts
Posted on 4/14/2008 1:21 PM

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