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I am sick of feeling sad, but I just can't turn my life and feelings in another direction. My husband and I are getting a divorce. He will not talk to me.. he walked out and has never discussed with me the divorce or why he wants it. I was so happy in the marriage and thought he was too. I am devistated and it is consuming me. I am so envious when I read other peoples stories about how they have communication... I can't even pick up a self help book without being envious because EVERY story or advice is based on the couples talking about what went wrong and why they are getting divorced. I have none of that. I feel like I can not relate to anyone and they can not relate to me. My husband and I didn't even have an arguement or fought on a regular basis. If I could see a breakdown of the relationship I would be so much more prepared for all of this. He made me feel loved every single day until he left... I haven't spoken or seen to him since then. I don't feel like I will ever meet anyone else nor do I want to get to know someone. Our relationship was close to "perfect" as you could get. The day before he left he told me I was the love of his life.
Most of my friends are married with children. They do not have the time to be there for me and I also feel guilty about taking there time. I feel very alone. If I had more single people around me I would feel better. I sit home all the time.
My question is how do I cope with all of this?
Thank you so much! I am going to pick up that book as soon as I can.My husband is also saying there is no one else. But I am not a fool to think he wouldn't lie. It has also been 2 months since he left. He has even changed his cell phone and mailed the old one back to me. I don't have his new number, I'm not even sure where he is living. I literly have had no communication with him for 2 months. And the thought of having to be in a court room with him is sickening to me. I can't believe he will not even try to go to counciling or work on our marriage. It's like I never mattered to him. 3 days after he left I recieved a letter from his attorney requesting a divorce.
I am just devistated... I want my life back, but most importantly I want him to regret what he did to me and that he left such a great, loving relationship. But, chances are he will never have those feelings.
Thanks again for your response. This website has been a wonderful resource to me. I just hope someday I can be happy again.
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