Why Do I Feel This Way Even After Knowing She's With Another Man?

Starr1, I do see a counselor, but he can only help me for that time we are in discussion about it.  I think that time is the only healing that I can use.  I realize that there are going to be up and down moments.  I just have to face the down moments as best as I can.  I'm starting to feel a little better now.  I still find my thoughts are occupied by her most of the time, even thought we've been almost 4 months removed from each other.  I am coping though, and I am starting to get to a point where the silly things she does like put her picture of her and the new bf up on her myspace yet still calls me at 2 in the morning or during the day when he's not around.  Bottom line, I have to cut the communication off completely from her, because until then I will not be able to fully heal.  Thank you for the advice.

Good for you in not having any communication with your wife, that is what I am doing with my stbx.  We can't go forward while holding onto the past.

Have you considered counseling for yourself; it may help you to deal with some of the anger and hate you are feeling.  These feelings will eat you alive if you let them.  She has hurt you deeply; don't let thoughts of her control your mind and future.

Try to let go of the past and look/work toward a brighter happier future.  Good Luck

Starr1, I agree with you, I know I contributed to the demise of my marriage.  But even my wife knew that I had never cheated on her and that what I did was stupid.  But, it doesn't justify her actions for her to just move right into a nother relationship immediately after separating.  I don't know, I'm just at a loss for words when it comes to how she handled this.  I never thought she was capable of being so hurtful and childish.  But, all in all, I have begun the process of healing and have put my foot down to cut all communication off from her.  My family tells me that she continues to contact me so that if things fall through with this other guy that she has something to fall back on.  She has stuff in my storage that I have asked her to get out, but she never says anything about it.  It's like she is holding onto channels to keep me around as a fail safe.  But you know what, I'm not going to allow her another chance to hurt me anymore.  She left such a bad taste in my mouth and I am so bitter about this whole ordeal, that I have begun to grow resentment and hate for her more than anything now.  I know this is silly, but she has forced these feelings on me now and I can't deny them anymore.