I found out my husband after 23 years of marraige was having an affair with a co-worker, it went on from nov 06 to aug of 07 until I found out , i found out by looking online at his cell phone records. he denied at first and made me figure it out who it was, i made a poster board on every month and how many times the calls were made on both ends ,,,and ya know it was shocking it went on from 5 am when he left for work till 9p at night each day for 10 months straight and it was between 10 to 25 times a day .
well when he was caught all he said was it was onlly phone calls , well than i played her and told her that he told me every thing and she admitted they went out for drinks several times,, i feel he slept with her just by the way i ask him. now that hes caught he seems to love me soooo much and does not want to leave and he wants to work things out but , i still think about it , I hate him for making me feel this way , I hate him for making me watch everything he does, I hate the fact that he has changed me, I am so different now  I wont put up with any of nonsence he wont even fight with me becaue he knows I will go off on him , I love him and dont want to leave but how do i over come part of the hate i have for him , for doing this to me. were trying to work it out but I still want to know if he slept with her , everyone is telling me to forget about it and move on, but how can you if it eats you up inside, i just feel he got away with it and there were no consiquences for him because after the talk we are trying to work it out but ..thats it BUT..i am confussed ..but i must admit he was treating me and our kids like shit when this was going on but now that he was caught he seems to be so wonderful what do i do ,,,theres more to this but i will not keep you any longer thanks...................