Adultry in a divorce situation.

i dont know how the laws work where you are, but here you can file for the divorce but it wont be granted until after that child is born, and the husabnd is always the presumed father of the child born in wedlock, so make sure you take the necessary steps so that your name is NOT on that childs birthcertificate, cause she can get YOU for the child support for yrs to come. here is mandatory that the husbands name is on the birth certificate until he contest it, and i think ya only have 60 days to do that.

Thanks for the advice Brad. I started using my own checking account and I've been giving her $300 for now until she gets a job or the divorce goes through. I think that’s more than generous. Other people say that I shouldn’t give her a damn thing. But I’m really trying to play this cool until everything is final. You know she actually wanted me to give her access to be able to view my checking account. Because I’m able to see her, it’s a joint checking account, she wants’ to be able to see mine. I told her if she has a problem with me being able to view her account then she needs to get her own checking account.

 

Then today she drops me a bombshell and tells me she is now pregnant from her current boyfriend and she wanted money to go see an OBGYN. I asked if current boyfriend was going to be paying for it and she said no, it would be her, which basically it would me paying. She later called me back and apologized for her behavior and said that she would talk to her boyfriend about paying for that. I need to turn in those divorce papers quick.

Thanks for letting me help chachi. Stand your ground on the bank account. Where is she going to get money to hire a lawyer in the first place? She hasn't asked you for alimony, right? She's only threatened to go court and ask for it. This after months of the two of you established a pattern for for support. No, no, no. What? She's going to be running into Court the rest of your life asking for more money because she can't hold a job? Or latched to what she thought was a better meal ticket only to find out the grass wasn't quite as green?

Separation means exactly that it's time to separate and undo the ties that bound you.

Thanks for the advice. I did forget to mention that we do have an eight year old. We do not own a home and she does not drive so the car is in my name. We did list out who was going to keep what furniture. So it looks like it should be pretty straight forward. I had done what you said and opened my own account and was in the process of moving my paycheck there. When she found out I had it she threatened to get a lawyer and ask for alimony if I didn't change it back. She said she didn't trust that I would put money in there for her. She is being really unreasonable with the whole situation, which is hard because I had tried to make the whole thing work but she won't keep up her end of the bargain.

You don't mention children so I'll assume there are none. Second you were not a sap to continue to provide support after separation. You sound like a guy who recognizes his responsibilities and meets them. There is nothing "sappy" about being an honorable man. Open a bank account in your own name asap. Don't not make anymore deposits into the joint account except for the support you agreed to provide.

Second check out this link. http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/cgi-bin/forms.cgi Have a look at form FL-150 & FL-160 Income and Expense Declaration and Property Declaration. Play with it. Fill it out. It will basically explain the community assets and liabilities. Everything and anything you have acquired since your date of separation is your sole and separate property.

Also speak to an attorney or a Legal Document Assistant.