I have only been married for a little over a year, but am so lost right now. I am trying to decide if this is salvageable or not...any advice would be very helpful. The situation with our in-laws has gotten so out of control I think it may be past the point of fixing. Nevertheless, I still have some hope. My MIL has so much control over her family that my husband spent our wedding night at a bar with her at his side and me all the way on the other side of the room. We got home from our honeymoon to hear "This is your mother calling, no one has heard from you since all that silly wedding nonsense. I could be dead in a ditch and you would never notice." Our first Christmas as a married couple, he woke up with me and all he could think about was how bad he felt because he didnt get his mother something for Christmas, all the while, he had nothing for me either. Then as he proceeded to open his gifts from me, he asked me to wrap souveniers from our honeymoon to give her for Christmas! His siblings have convinced him that he should set aside his paycheck to help take care of her when she cant anymore, and everyone seems to think that this is none of my business; what my husband does with his paycheck is up to him, mine is the joint income. His mother has slapped me at a restaurant when we were out to lunch, and when I excused myself, he continued to finish his meal and said it was not his place to get involved. She walked into our house uninvited and refused to leave, and his response was "well, thats just the way she is." And when she finally left, she called him a barage of curse words, yet he defended her! We have been married for a year and a half. My family lives 2500 miles away. This year we decided to spend Christmas with my family; it was the first time he has spent any holiday with my family, all others for the past 7 years have been spent with his family. Yet, when we got back from our trip, I received emails from his brother's wife stating that holidays were supposed to be spent with family, and his brother and him had such a close relationship, and I should talk to Justin. Yet when I expressed that this was childish, inappropriate (especially to my WORK email) and totally disrespectful, he thought again it had nothing to do with him. After a year of therapy, I have heard so many times that he will do something about it that I no longer believe him. I have been made to feel so insignificant that I no longer have a desire to have sex with him. He will tell me till he is blue in the face that he will take care of all the issues, but thinks that telling me he will take care of it should be enough, he shouldnt have to actually do it. And yet, every time they do something he just turns the other way, then proceeds to fight with me that I have to just accept that thats how they are. This woman has destroyed every single aspect of our relationship, and the siblings all worship her and have followed suit. I just need some advice. I mean I know its the worst thing to say, but i want to have children someday, but I refuse to let my children listen to their father be called a loser and an A**hole and him hang his head in shame. I refuse to have my children exposed to her manipulation, mind games, and mental abuse. Is there any hope or is it really time to just pull the plug and throw in the towel?