Visitation $ Blues

Thanks for you input.  My ex is doing this to cause me pain and play games.  He is not really intrested in our kids..by his own omission.  He has remarried and his stepkids are the replacements.  He calls them once every 2 weeks and doesn't return the kids calls hardly ever.  He withheld child support over the holidays to make things tight for me until the State threatened to pull his medical liscense. ( which was after Xmas so it was a very small Xmas) This week is his year for Spring Break with our kids and he couldn't afford it...next week he is taking the new family to DisneyWorld and he lives no where near FL.  He is then going to Hawaii and then on a 2 week Jamicain trip in July.(he has never taken our kids on vacation in the 14 years)  He just says it isn't fair I won't pay half way for the kids to go see him and he won't even consider flying to them for a visit. I guess I need to get an attorney, but I can't afford that anymore than I can afford to transport the kids to him.  I thought all the games were suppose to stop with the divorce.  I just want him to be reasonable for the kids sake.  When he first moved the first time, he was 7 hours away and when he wanted to see our kids, I always drove half way to him and that cost about $200 per weekend to take and get them back.  But that was only once every other month if that.  Why can't they just move on and stop the games.  I try not to engage, but I am tired of the BS and just want to put an end to his nonsense hoping the games would stop.  He can do what ever he wants with the new family, I don't want to be with him and maybe that has hurt his Dr. Ego, but he just can't ever see trying to make things hard on me, makes them hard on the kids even more.  I just needed some advice and I appreciate you taking the time to answer.

Most states have laws that govern who must pay for visitation exchanges when one party moves out of state.  In my state, the party that moves must pay for all travel expenses except for summer visitation which is split 50/50.  You may also want to consider offering alternative visitation (talk to your lawyer first).  Again in my state, virtual visitation (webcam/IM) is being ordered.  I use a site called TwoRoofs.com for this.  Their virtual visitation feature is just coming online but Im willing to wait because I like all of the other features of the site and its an easy way to communicate and share information with a spouse who lives far away.

Yes. you have legal rights here.  but you'll need to go back to your lawyer or court to modify your agreement...this is done all the time.  I would tell your ex that you intend to do just that.....and he will wake up and pay for it all, i hope.  plus, if his income has increased since the divorce, that too can be modified.  so, information and knowlege is important here...make sure he knows you know.