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legal separation or divorce

recently relocated from ny to fl. in hopes of having a better life with my husb. and now 8 yr. old.  we were living with his mom for a little while. my husb. returned to ny to get a job claiming he couldn't find anything down here. i had to find a place for our child and i to live. i pay all of the bills and take care of our child. he has given me zero assistance. our child cries for her dad because she thought he was coming (this hurts me very much),no child support or any other kind of support has been given. he developed this attitude towards me, for reasons i can't explain. i know he has to pay support for our child, but what are my rights? i want this over, because he is not coming to fl. and i don't think he had any intention of coming!!
by LMAC    2 Posts   
Posted on 3/17/2008 1:04 PM    
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Sorry to hear about your situation... I would file ASAP cause they are right... since he doesn't seem to be willing to pay for his daughter ... you must be the one taking the lead. Good luck
by Tato   417 Posts
Posted on 3/20/2008 7:54 PM
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Document everything.  He's going to say he visited, he supported, the whole nine yards.  Decide where you're going to file for divorce and do it ASAP before he can.  Protect your child any way you can from emotional and financial abuse.  I don't know which state has the best child support system but you may want to consider that when you file too.  It doesn't sound like he has much that you can get out of a lawsuit; your best bet is to max out the child support benefits and let the courts handle him if he doesn't pay.  If you file a civil suit to get expenses reimbursed, he can keep it tied up in courts forever, but child support is an instant decision and he has to pay even if he files an appeal--and most states will jail him for failure to pay.
by tiffany   9 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2008 4:43 PM
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I'm sorry to hear your situation, you and your daughter deserve so much more.  You are probably right, he had no intentions of coming back.

 

Do some research as Vicki has stated and do what is best for you. 

by starr1   185 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2008 12:19 AM
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thats not good for him! i'm the one with the job. i pay for health ins. for the family, all of the bills, and take care of the child(our child). he gives me NOTHING! he dropped us off in fl. and took off,leaving me to do everything. and doesn't seem to feel bad about it. i know i can get child support, but can i sue for any expenses on my behalf?? thanks for your response. i need all the help i can get.
by LMAC   2 Posts
Posted on 3/17/2008 6:33 PM
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I'm sorry.  But you need to act fast.  I don't know the laws in NY, but FL is a 50/50, no fault state.  So basically, you will split everything, assets, debts, visitation, custody....all of it 50/50.  if that is good for you, then move here, find a lawyer and divorce from FL.  if that is not good for you, then check the laws in NY and do not take up a perm residence in FL.
by Vicki   854 Posts
Posted on 3/17/2008 3:56 PM
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