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should i get a divorce?

we have been married for 26 years.ten years ago he and his sister conspired against me by hiding money,i was never allowed to see bank statements,she had a key to our bank box,i didnot have one.they had a fight,i stayed,i don't know why.In the last few years he has gambled away all of our money,has promised to quit numorus times,still lying to me about it.each month I look at our bank statement and see he is still doing it.three months ago I moved my ss check to a different bank,thought that mightmake him stop,but it didn't work.I don't know what to do.If i divorce will i get some of his ss money?
by be    3 Posts   
Posted on 3/4/2008 3:37 PM    
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I know it is a hard decision but if he is not comunicating more openly... there is little you can do... you may suggest to him to talk about what is he really afraid of... but if you get no answer... then I really think your marriage is over. Sad, but over
by Tato   417 Posts
Posted on 3/6/2008 1:01 PM
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no,he did not have a good reason to hide money from me,i have asked him what did i do to deserve that kind of treatment and he said nothing.I think it had to do woth my kids,he always treated them bad and got mad anytime i helped them.
by be   3 Posts
Posted on 3/5/2008 11:07 AM
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Let me ask you... has ever been a reason in the past why he should hide bank statements and access to your accounts? Cause if there is not... you are his wife and you should be having a key not his sister. I agree with Cindy if he is not going to change his behaviour... you may better get on with a divorce. Good luck
by Tato   417 Posts
Posted on 3/5/2008 10:55 AM
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if you are really sure that this is what you want then you should make a plan.  i'd read about it on this site and talk to family and friends who have been thru it as well.  you shouldn't be this unhappy and his actions would make anyone crazy!
by cindy   79 Posts
Posted on 3/4/2008 3:46 PM
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we have talked about it.he was going to leave me because he said i griped too much,but he changed his mind.I am not happy and i don't want him to touch me.
by be   3 Posts
Posted on 3/4/2008 3:43 PM
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sounds like you've put up with quite a bit over the years.  yes, you'll get financial support, but it will be a fraction of what you are used to living on.  but that's the case for everyone who divorces.   have you told him how serious you are?
by cindy   79 Posts
Posted on 3/4/2008 3:40 PM
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