Offended

Linny,

Im sorry you are struggling right now.  You are not a failure, the situation didn't work.  You tried your best.  What you don't want to do is fail to get up after you have been knocked down. There is a lot to learn from divorce, mainly about yourself.  Use the experience to build a brand new life for yourself.  Stop with the negative talk in your head.  Put a rubberband around your wrist, every time you catch yourself with negative chatter, pop yourself and tell yourself something positive.  You are your thoughts, give yourself a break and remeber YOU ROCK!

I am sorry you still feel the need to be rude towards me.
I thought this board was for encouragement?

 

 

yes it was me Linny and I will continue to do so whenever somebody is giving advice that is not legally correct. I forgot what thread it was but it was obvious by your answer that you had no clue and that you had some kind of agenda. I feared the person asking might not know enough, take your seriously and make a very bad mistake.

You didn't offend me in the least. If I offended you then put your big girl panties on and get over it. In the future you might do well to recognize what you don't know and not respond to a question with totally wrong information and agenda driven opinion.

Thank you so much to all three of you. You are so right, it is a place to vent. I guess we are all here because we are all hurting and want to see what others are going through to see if we can offer words of encourgement and that is exactly what you guys did.

Thanks. I've learned a lot today.

i agree.  i really don't think anyone was trying to offend you...i think that divorce is just such a heated topic...and sometimes when people are giving advice, the emotions are just so raw (from personal experience) that things get blurry.  please keep sharing your opinions and thoughts and feelings.  that's what this is all about.

SuYin is right.  This is a place where you should be able to voice yourself without fear of critical judgment.  No matter which side of the divorce you fall on the leaver, or the left,  it always feels like somebody is judging you.  Most of us try not to do that here.  If we don't agree, or feel we need to say something contrary, we offer it in the form of help, and not an accusation. This is a place to build up, not tear down.  I hope you know you're a welcome member Linny.

Linny, it was not joshua -- it was brad who made the comment.  there are some of us here on this site that care about the people that come to post about their problems.  no one is here to judge you.  we are here to help and listen (read).  we've all gone through or are going through a divorce.  it is a difficult decision in one's life and you have every right to feel whatever you are feeling.  keep posting and venting and helping others by talking to them and replying to their posts.  sometimes that's all anyone is looking for... someone to just vent to... Stay strong and dont let anyone deter you.