I am one of the many women who marry for the child's sake......I thought I was doing what was best for my newborn....so he would have his father to be there.......but the love between his father and I was only a short lived 'lust' that turns sour real fast. Now, after 16 years of being miserable for living with a man I can hardly stand to look at for many reasons, I decided to end it. I have such a wonderful inner feeling of relief that it is finally done....but we had sex 1 time in 5 years and here came our 6 year old daughter who loves her daddy dearly........our 16 year old son is confused, angry, etc. He has known for many years of the troubles his father and I had and that we were only together for him and now him and his sister. Even our son has had serious issues with his father, but I always acted like the peacekeeper to keep them together because I know this guy could easily walk away and never look back 9like he's done with 2 other children from 2 other marraiges). I keep assuring both of our children that everything will be ok. It's only been 5 days since I kicked him out. I've sked him for a divorce for years, but he always led me to believe that he would leave and not look back at either of his kids if I went through with it. But he went too far by trying to turn our son against me with lies about me. For our daughter's sake I make sure dad calls and sees, but our son doesn't even want to see him yet. WHen our son told me of the lies, because they were bothering him so bad, together we confronted the father for an explanation. He admitted that he lied........then here went the fireworks. At 16, a boy really needs his father.........a good father. Our son is so upset and holding it all in. Then, on top of all this, tonight the realization hit me hard that not only are my children losing a big part of their father (presence), but they will be losing his family, which is the only family (extended) they've known. I am so confused. I want what is best for everyone. Divorce is definetly best on one side of the coin.........but that leaves my children family-less.....so do I let him back in just so my kids will have contact with other family even though I know he shouldn't be here?????????????? Does anyone have all the answers . . .I sure don't. Help!