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My husband won't stop smoking pot

Hello I am in a really tough position here. My husband and will have been married 3 years this coming Janurary.%0d%0aWhen we met he stopped smoking pot because I didn't like him smoking it. Now about a year ago he started smoking again saying he just wants to try it again and asked me to try it I did and I hated it. So now he is very addicted to it. When he runs out of it and can't get it because of no money or because someone is out of stock. He is a totally different person he is very rude irritable hateful and worst of all he enjoys falling asleep on the couch every day after work and sometimes not even getting up to take a shower and go to bed. I am to the point where I just want to leave and get a divorce his addiction is making us fight and tearing me apart inside. %0d%0aI don't know what to do. I only work Part time and he is the main source of income and I am looking for another job to help myself.%0d%0aI stay because I love him and He is everything, but %0d%0aI am really lonely to be with someone when your not really with him. I think I might be less lonely alone. %0d%0aI don't know what to do I am so upset and confused.

by JD84   1 Post 
Posted on 8/18/2012 6:39 PM
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He gave it up for the wrong reason if the only reason he quit was because you didn't like it.


As Julie said, get yourself to al-anon or some similar group for support, and to an attorney. By the sound of your post you're not only thinking of divorce but contemplating an affair because you're "lonely." Get over it, and get yourself straight before you start complicating your situation further. You've been married 2 1/2 years, divorce will likely be (relatively) simple if you don't have children together. If you decide to stay in the marriage, you need to do it knowing you'll be faithful.


Good luck, keep us posted.

by RiverTam   941 Posts
Posted on 8/19/2012 2:48 PM

The bad thing about weed is that it takes away a person's motivation. If he continues to use, he's going to be lying on that same couch in the same room. If he, somehow, finds motivation to change his standard of living (like buying a new couch), he's going to have limited options - all those which require passing a drug test aren't available.

I have a kid who uses. Al-Anon helped me detach from him so that he isn't able to drag me down with him. Narc-Anon groups are out there. I chose an Al-Anon group because it was more convenient, and addiction is addiction - the substance or behavior of choice only matters in terms of legal consequences.

Before you do anything, you need to see an attorney. You might be pleasantly surprised at what some of your options are. I know I was.

We're here for you.
by NotJulieG   3319 Posts
Posted on 8/18/2012 7:38 PM

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