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Medicine at school during "my" time

STBX does not want our 7 yo on asthma medication. She has a minor case of it, but the doctor said that if the inhalers help her with her exercise induced-asthma, then it's better that she have it.
Is it ok for the school to give her this medicine during "my" weeks? I have not expressly shared with him the fact that I supplied the school with the authorization and Rx.  I share a google folder with him where I add the medical forms as PDFs so we always have a copy when needed.  I haven't called out "hey d-bag, she's getting her med at school."  

Should I stop the med at school??

by stuckette   625 Posts 
Posted on 4/18/2012 1:43 AM
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take him to court for contempt - let him try to convince a judge they are unnecessary...

don't forget to ask for your court fees and costs too....
by spaznskitz   11339 Posts
Posted on 4/18/2012 10:45 PM

Thanks, all!  
I've finally internalized what my attorney told me about not being able to take preemptive legal action. It's always in reaction to something someone did. Except for making personal threats then you call the cops.

So I am going to keep doing what the doctors say I should be doing for my kids. 

What about getting him to pay his share of medical expenses? He thinks if he doesn't feel treatment is necessary, then he should not have to pay.
by stuckette   625 Posts
Posted on 4/18/2012 5:15 PM

He objects to an INHALER? seriously? Does the man not understand that asthma can KILL you? 

I have asthma...so do several of my kids...it sucks serious ass. 

If he wants to object to the meds or the school giving it to her, he has to prove to the court why it isn't medically necessary. (good luck, bud) 

what he does on him time is his business when it comes to the meds. If you are one of the lucky people who live where the school doesn't require the parent to come to the school to give any medication to the child themselves, and all it takes is a form and they will proceed - if he is a numbnutz enough not to understand what is in front of him in a file...I wouldn't say a word.
by spaznskitz   11339 Posts
Posted on 4/18/2012 2:39 PM

I'm with the others.  The only initials your stbx has after his name are "RAB", not "MD".  (Rat's Ass Bastard)
by Iam   7316 Posts
Posted on 4/18/2012 8:43 AM

Hey Stuckette! So sorry your ex just has the need to be contrary even at child's expense. My son has exercise induced asthma as well.  It has lessoned as he's getting older. I'm not sure if it is something your daughter takes regularly or just an as needed type of thing. Will wait to see Spaz's reply...  My thought is same as worried2tears, if you are going to err, do it on the safe side by giving her the meds as needed and let him take you to court over the right to keep her from it. My guess is he won't. Some people take this medical decisions things to far when they want to be a pain in the ass. Hopefully Spaz can share the courts intention with that.
by Peace333   666 Posts
Posted on 4/18/2012 8:35 AM

Wait for Spaz's definitive answer, but my gut reaction is that if a DOCTOR tells you it's in her best interests to have the medication, then you follow what the DOCTOR says, not the numbnuts who is not qualified to make that judgement. And if he objects, then let him take you to court over it. If he tries to stop her from taking the medication, then YOU will have to decide whether it's worth it to jack him up in court over it.

Zen Hugs
by worried2tears   2308 Posts
Posted on 4/18/2012 7:29 AM

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