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should I stay???

I have been married for 4 years.I love my husband very much.We have two beautiful children together.The only problem is that my husband is a drug addict and we are always fighting when it comes to money and the safety of my kids.The only time we fight or have a disagreement is when he gets drugs.We love each other very much but I can't live like this and neither can my children.He keeps saying he will get help but hasn't yet and this has been going on for 2 yrs.I don't know what I should do.I need some good advise.

by jessi 1 Post
Posted on 2/18/2008 6:22 PM

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i have been out of a 24 year abusive marraige and here i am 50 and starting all over. take it from someone who knows, it will get worse. when your spouse is on drugs he turns into a different person than the one you fell in love with. all the fighting will effect your children and take a major tole on you. little by little you will loose yourself. no man or relationship is worth the damage to you or your children. i still love mine but ive learned to love myself more. good luck.

by finallyready 4 Posts
Posted on 2/23/2008 1:46 AM

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I totally agree with Barkley, you NEED to do an intervention, it's either YOU and the kids or the DRUGS, sometimes drug addicts need a rock bottom, and "what if" situation. Remember though drugs change your soul, your mind, who you are..I know it's not fair, but HE is NOT the same person now that he is an addict, sometimes the drugs make his choices and not him or his mind. Do an intervention with you, his friends and family, everyone has to agree to CUT HIM OFF from everything even being in his life if he does not get help. It is hard rough battle, I have a friend going through this, but trust me IT can be good....

by joanie 6 Posts
Posted on 2/19/2008 5:26 PM

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Your husband needs a major intervention. A drug addiction is hard to just stop "cold turkey". He needs to seek counseling to save his marriage. He is not setting a good example of his children. Is he able to provide for you and the kids ? Have you given him an ultimatum?..... drugs or his family? show him you are serious about this and leave with the kids until you know he is clean.

by Barkley 807 Posts
Posted on 2/18/2008 9:45 PM

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