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Hard to decide

yes he does Bea4 and he is really sad and unmotivated at his business and home life because in order for him to be happy I have to be happy. I want to be happy but i feel convicted about leaving him and i feel i like i am dishonoring God and i just feel selfish.  I am at the end of the road and it's hard for me to step into separation because I know the consequences which are sadness and depression basically a deep pit.


by diamond    31 Posts   
Posted on 2/18/2008 6:18 PM    
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It's been really been tough and it's going on our 2nd year actually being together. the first year we were separated. i was in iraq and he was home.   I know i've been writing and asking what i should do because of all the conflicts and sadness, and being unhappy. I am going to pray about it and meditate on things. i am going to just sit back and look at myself and take care of my needs and I am going to give it some time to see how everything goes in this relationship.  I hope that our next counseling section will help us also.  I just want to be happy and maybe i just have to make myself happy before i can make him happy.  True, i just have to find myself. Pray for me.
by diamond   31 Posts
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Bea4 is right. Sometimes you have to make the decision.  THe anguish we put ourselves though is worse than the actual problem.  I've listened to you for a few days Diamond.  I think you know what your doing, and what you have to do.  Pray over it, and then trust your decision.  I'll pray for you as well.
by Robert-Boyd   2629 Posts
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It will be difficult but you might feel relief after the decision is made.  You only live once and need to make the best of it.  The consequences might not be sadness and depression it might just be a new beginning.  Think positive and keep me posted.
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