I'm in a somewhat similar situation. I filed 8/27 and we are still living in the same house. He didn't want to tell our 8 year old until we knew the move-out plan. We were in separate bedrooms and I assumed she had an idea about it. She did not. We told her a couple weeks ago & she was sideblinded. Telling her was one of the worst moments in my life.
Anyhow, it is very difficult to heal while co-habitating. I understand that completely. My stbx has until 10/31 to move out and I am counting the days. I don't necessarily want him out. I just want to heal from this.
I would weigh the pros and cons to moving. Does your atty. think you might have to eventually?
When I filed, a court date for temporary orders was immediately set. It included (my) exclusive right to the house because I am the primary caregiver. I know every state is different. I am suprised you are indefinitely going to live in this situation. I bet your wife has a plan. Divorce is awful.
I have already have an attourney and he has advised me to stay in the home or risk losing everything. He says I have to "suck it up" at this point and YES , NC does have the separate resident clause in place. She has to move out if she wants this. She is sleeping on the floor of our bedroom and the kids know that , even though we have a spare room. She doesn't have any of the credit cards either at this point. We have gone to a cash system and I am keeping watch on the account as well. I do believe the kids should know , but it will stress them out NOT knowing when things are going to happen. My therapist even said to hold off on telling them, but they do notice something has changed. They are bright kids.
Thank You for your insightful advice, I will give it some thought and run it by my therapist. And as for having sex, that is out of the question at this point. That stopped a long time ago.
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