Sorry but I have to point this out.
He will LET YOU keep the house if you give him a big chunk of your 401k?? Umm, is the house upside down or not?
The house is a joint asset and the mortgage is a joint debt. Why would you let him walk away from the marriage with a chunk of your retirement savings and leave you with all the debt?If you take all off your assets (including 401k) and subtract all of your debts (including negative equity in the house), that is your total net equity. Divide that number in half and that's about what you would owe him if he walks away from the house. If it is a negative number, then that's what he would owe you for the privelege of walking away.It sounds to me like he is hanging around making your life miserable so that you will give him money to go away. That's not fair. Bankruptcy and foreclosure may actually be the quickest way out of this mess for you.
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