Done playing by his rules it's my rules now...

My husband still thinks we're planning a mediation...to make it easier on the kids...& of course him financially...blah blah blah... He screwed up when he hurt my daughter by not wanting to spend time with her...rather choosing his girlfriend over her...she came to me in tears cause he was all dressed up to go out with her...& not spending time with our daughter...or any of our 4 kids...at that point she was crying mom why don't you just get a lawyer...I've not yet told her....that tuesday I have an appt . with a lawyer... When he hurt her was the breaking point when I decided...I"ve played his games & by his rules for 13 years...& we're done...from this point on...it's my rules...or whatever the judge rules...but he's done making decisions for this family... I told him if he picks up the boys by 2:45 he can have them today & my youngest daughter from school...my oldest daughter don't want to see him or talk to him...she told me she'll only text him...she's spending the weekend with her friend...he knows I don't work tonight & will wonder why I wanted them gone this early in the day...I truely have no reason...just want to play him with the...it's my right to have a life too & it's none of your business where I"m going who I'm with or what I"m doing... He screwed up by cheating...& leaving me with 4 kids...but I was trying to be decent a bout everything for the kids' sakes...but...hurting my kids....is the last straw...have to pray to God to help me to keep from doing anything that may hurt them as well...he didn't want them till tomorrow...but...if he don't take them today...they're going with my sister...& he's not going to my parents to see them...I've 5 brothers who wouldn't think twice about stripping him down naked in the snow & hanging him by his ankles from a tree... Could hear his voice on the phone when he called one of my daughters & tried to get them to give mom the phone when I wouldn't answer my own...told her I don't want him to put me in a bad mood before I go to work...then he called the second daughter & tried playing the same game...am tired of him calling me & ruining my day...told her if he wants something he can text me...I don't want to talk to him it's not worth ruining my day...he was mad...could hear it in his voice...when he told her he'd call her later...ugh...

by Lizzi 7 Posts
Posted on 2/8/2008 9:08 AM

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Good for you Lizzi! I can see that you are already on your way from the comment you left for me "How do I let go". Like you, I'm doing a little better, the wining and crying is over, now it's time to take action and take care of the family. I also know, as the cheating bast**d ditched our boys on Christmas eve and morning to be with her. As I am learning, be very careful what you do and say to him, he may be documenting your actions as well. Good luck with the consultation with the attorney.

by jrcrzymum 6 Posts
Posted on 2/12/2008 5:57 PM

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sorry lizzie my fingers slipped. but say nothing to those kids about their father, believe me he will and has already messed up with them. just make sure that you document EVERYTHING, txts, record phone calls, and write down all garbage he pulls in a note book titled B.S. keep it away from children. AND just keep handing him the shovel and he will eventually dig deep enough and fall in. and also get ALL document cpies of assetts it will help during process, it will save alot of headaches. mind you I do hope you have a better attorney that I. I am on #3. GOOD LUCK

by mouse 75 Posts
Posted on 2/8/2008 9:51 AM

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Lizzi you have made the right choice. our situations are very much alike. I was in a 21 year marriage and should have made the desition a long time ago!! I have 3 children that my ex told horrible things to, and they called me names and said things a mother should never hear. but because their father told them sooooo many lies and manipulated the situation he has distroyed a relationship with us. BUT there is hope I have had LOTS of patients and just make sure you say NOTHING

by mouse 75 Posts
Posted on 2/8/2008 9:45 AM

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Its good that you've decided to start taking some control here....but please try to keep your kids out of it as much as you possibly can. believe me, i know how difficult that can be. i can relate to your story and feel for you. but i really do think that you have started on the right path by admitting it's time you take control. you can do this. stay strong. keep us posted!

by Vicki 856 Posts
Posted on 2/8/2008 9:37 AM

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