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Ex getting remarried!

My divorce was final back in December of last year.... And I found out that my ex husband is getting remarried!!!! For some reason this makes me so MAD!!! Is it normal for me to feel upset about this?

by pandagirl   4 Posts 
Posted on 10/27/2010 5:15 PM
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My ex moved in with his girlfriend once I found out. They may be married I am not sure. Don't care. But, my children are grown, so I don't have to deal with him.
by sjg   3034 Posts
Posted on 11/6/2010 7:23 AM

In general I think women are more emotional about their ex remarrying. My ex walked out on me right into another relatioship with another man and pregnant with his baby at that. So it's been like she remarried from the get go.

I am not sure of your story but you can bet your bottom dollar that your ex hasn't got much freedom as he once did being married since he is divorced and God help him if he cheated on you and she knows about it.

What the hell I'd send flowers or something. I might even volunteer to sing at my ex's wedding maybe Oh Happy Day, Thank God And Greyhound You're Gone. Don't be mad girlfriend be glad because if he calls bothering you all you have to say is you need to carry your sorry ass and get your honey do list sone before your new wife whoops your ass.

Hell I'd call and leave a sultry message giving off the impression he's cheating on her if their causing problems for you.

Who knows we'll be commenting on his cheating ass wife that just kicked his ass to the curb soon. When he gets on this site.
by gregory1969   1991 Posts
Posted on 10/29/2010 1:29 PM

I can understnad the reaction of being hurt, because it's like you are being replaced.  You wonder why you weren't "good enough" for him. 

I'm not sure of my ex is dating, and frankly, I don't care.  My only concern is how she treats my kids.  That's it, that's all.  But, it took a long time for me to get to this point.  I had to step back and realize that anyone who gets involved with my ex will find themselves with a momma's boy who thinks that money shows love.  I'm so over that.

It took a lot of work on my part to get to this point.  I realized I was mourning more the relationship than him.  I was craving companionship with someone.  I also saw that he's my EX for a reason.  And, if someone new comes into his life and he takes that step to marry her, then he's her problem, not mine!
by Dactyl   5834 Posts
Posted on 10/28/2010 10:14 AM

I think it is a normal reaction. When I heard my ex moved in with his girlfriend (the one that ended our marriage), I had a pang in my heart. It was like, that is my place. I was to the point that I didn't want him back, realized I deserved to be treated better than I had been, but I still had the pang. I am sure if I hear they get married, I will have something similar.

Don't and didn't want him back but still...that pang, which then just pisses you off that you had it to begin with....
by militaryp   5614 Posts
Posted on 10/28/2010 9:25 AM

I'm waiting to hear the same thing about my ex...it's just a matter of time.  I agree with Calloway that it wouldn't matter if there wasn't a child involved because I don't otherwise choose to associate with liars and cheats.  But my daughter IS involved, and since my ex is railroading his relationship through without regard to anything beyond his own needs, I have to focus on making sure my daughter is OK.

I read some statistics that show up to 90% of all marriages that take place within two years of a divorce will fail.  Those are pretty steep odds.  Good luck with that! :)
by Bunnysmama   119 Posts
Posted on 10/28/2010 8:49 AM

I know a lot of guys who were thrilled when their ex-wives got remarried.  It was the end of their alimony payments. 

If my kids weren't involved, I honestly would not care what my ex did at all.  She has made it clear since our divorce that her life is her own, and she's had to accept the consequences for all that entails.  I'm just very thankful that she can't drag me down with her anymore.
by Calloway   511 Posts
Posted on 10/28/2010 8:11 AM

I dont even want to think about that happening. Thats almost worse then the divorce itself. Im sorry you have to go through that. I can imagine its very upsetting at the least. You have every right to feel however it is that you feel.
by jordan   380 Posts
Posted on 10/27/2010 11:16 PM

My ex was going to get remarried three months after the divorce was final.  At least that's what the skank thought.  Luckily the honeymoon faded before the drunken floozy became a permanent part of my kids' lives.

I used to get so mad because he treated me like garbage.  Like some disposable diaper you just wad up and kick to the curb.  I really can't stand the man and I certainly don't want to be married to him.  But I don't want to see him and the skank ride off into the sunset after tearing apart my life and the lives of our kids.  Let him suffer a little.  Let him suffer a lot.  I am not garbage, and no one throws me away, buster. 

It's interesting, because he made the comment that since I am dating the IM I seem to have moved on fairly quickly.  Well, hey, I wasn't f'ing the IM while we were married!
by Iam   7316 Posts
Posted on 10/27/2010 6:02 PM

My evil ex got married a short 3.5 months after our divorce was final and only 6 months after separation.  He was engaged 1.5 months after the divorce.  To his FIFTH wife.  A psychiatric nurse!

It made me very sad for her, at first.  Then I thought maybe she has good drugs for him and she can control him, maybe even kill him.  Then I felt so much better.  ;D

by rubyslippers   2625 Posts
Posted on 10/27/2010 5:44 PM

oh, yeah.

my ex just remarried a couple of weeks ago, my kids told me 4 months before the ceremony, he never told me he was attempting to legitimize his affair.

everything came back for me, not on the same level, but i was back to square one for several months....

now I have to determine how I function in this new situation which I really don't want to confront.
changes your future again.

by fra   1665 Posts
Posted on 10/27/2010 5:24 PM

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