so my wife of 4 years and partner of 6 years, recently got separated. the morning before, she said nothing to me, i asked what's wrong and she blew up. she said all kinds of hateful things to me, saying she hates me, i made her hate me, i'm mentally abusive to her. i'm the cause of her bi-polar and BPD dissorders. i'm not the one for her, that i didn't put forth any effort into the marriage. true, i didn't make the best money and only part-time, but i tried, i honostly tried my best. i appologized to her that i couldn't afford her her dream house. i told her that i couldn't do it by myself, that i needed her help. she said it's up to me to put forth that effort, she has her job taking care of the baby and babysitting in exchange for our rent. she said her job was to take care of the baby, my job was to take care of them. i know this, everything i could do i did for them, but for her to say that i didn't care, breaks my heart. i've been told to just let her go, but it's easier said than done, i was told just to avoid her, and it tears at me not knowing how she and the baby are doing. and no matter how hateful she is, she's still the mother of our child, my best friend, my lover, my wife. i still love her so very much and it hurts.