Where do I turn

beieive me when i tell you that a relationship takes 2. i ws in a 21 yr marriage and it was my marriage not ours. also you can not change for everyone else you need to change for you. being told your not loved is mental abuse. been there. being shaped into a person they want you to be will only make you forget who you were to begin with. i lost who i was, and being a mother of 3, i couldn't even be the mother who i needed to be, even that has been damaged. you need to find yourself then find someone who loves you for who you are, not what they want you to be. i have and i was lost for 21 years, at age 19, now 42, i have grown up. and love me, i still have self esteem issues but i feel better.

I agree, give him his space and time to miss you. Prove to him you are a good person, confident, successful, etc. Let him see what he is missing.

Good advice Lori, I think you need to let him go. If he really wants things to work out he wouldn't be telling you he doesn't love you. Sometimes when your in the middle of something, you can't really tell what you feel. Maybe he does need to be away from yu to show him how much he really does care and love you. He's probably never had to do that. Just because you give him time away doesn't mean it's over.

You cant make a person love you. I know thats harsh but its the truth. Have you ever heard the saying, "If you love it set it free. If it comes back, its yours to keep...if it doesnt, it never was?" Let him go and see what happens. Relationships take 2 people to make them work. Im not sure what he would need an intervention for but the more people you try to have push him, the further he will drift from you. Maybe all he needs is space. Give it to him.