I Love my husband

There's nothing wrong with you.. It's great that you love your husband.. Girl firend, don't forget to LOVE YOU.. You can make it with or without him.
Remember, you can't make a person do nothing that they don't want to.

i am in a similar situation my husband resenlty told me it was over and wanted a divorce i mentioned counseling and he also said there was nothing wrong with him i to have 3 small children 8,6,2 2 girls and a boy my husband is never around he is running a company in nc and is only home every other weekend i recently learned that he has been talking to a women and they have went out to dinner a few times i still love him and do not want a divorce but i also dont want to force him to stay i to am a god fearing woman and that is why divorce is so hard for me i believe that in time god will give me peace and if we are meant to be together then his will be done any advise i would welcome it

You and your family are in mine Carlapooh. Take care!

I really would like to thank all of you that responded for your comments, it weird all of you were on the same page. I am a God fearing women and I believe that God used you to tell me this. for all of you God bless you and keep me in your thoughts and prays

Try and find some time for yourself, I know it is hard, but even if you can put the kids in preschool, "mother's morning out" at a local church. You need sometime to be by yourself or with friends for coffee. You need to seek counseling to cope with your feelings. Is your husband stressed with work, school and financial problems? these are all stresses that can cause strain on a marriage. I admire you for having 3 young children so close and raising them pretty much all on your own. Find happiness and confidence for your kids to see. You sound like a great mom and those three kids are lucky to have you. stay strong and do something for yourself.

I know exactly how you feel. It sounds like you need some sort of outlet for yourself once in a while. Are your kids able to go to preschool a couple of mornings a week to give you a little time alone? It seems like with your husband going to school and probably working to, you don't have alot of time for each other either. The stress of school, work, little ones and trying to keep a house is very hard for both of you. I'm sure this is all temporary because he won't be in school forever, but keeping it all together until things get back to normal is hard. I would try counseling even if it is just for yourself. Maybe when things are quiet and you can talk without any anger, you can tell him how you feel. Hang in there. I think this marriage is far from being over. You to just need to communicate a little more and spend some quality time together alone.

Maybe nothing is wrong with him, but there's obviously something wrong in your marriage. Marriage is a team It's not you and him, it's BOTH of you, together. You might try explaining your feelings, and try to point out that you feel your relationship isn't balanced. If he won't go to counseling, you can't force him. It may not be a bad idea for you to go alone though. You're obviously not getting what you need out of your relationship. A therapist can help you sort through your feelings before making any rash decisions. You sound like a woman dedicated to her marriage and her family. If your husband is smart, he won't want to risk losing that.