Emergency facing Dilemma

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Good day to you guys. I'm both new this site and to this group. I'm searching for answers for some really stiff challenges ahead. I was married for 9 years and I have two girls. It's taking a lot out me emotionally. Any advice?

I'm glad. I'm sure he'd like that too. You're a strong person, I pray that God blesses you and your family with much happiness. You sound like a good mom who loves her children deeply.

true very true the sad realities of how families forget what is most important. you see i could care less what he does now and with whom, i married a terrible man who has caused nothing but trauma and hardship for me and my children. my father in law was also subjected to living a life of being kept from the truth. i never agreed and wished that i spoke his language somehow we communicated and i loved him dearly, i have four children two are from a previous relationship but he treated them all the same. he was a great grandfather and i gave him a grandson that gave him life again, you see my husband abandoned me and my children when our son was dx with autism. i shortly learned that my children had been exposed to lead posioning me and my children now live with multible disabilities and mental illnesses, i have struggled for close to 6 yrs on my own caring and advocating for them i quit my job and became there fulltime care provider my husband did everything in his sick mind to make our lives miserable we have faced countless hardships but i have always been able to remain standing this he hates and for many years it was nothing but harassment from him . not until this past yr i cut all contact with his family except his father. my father in law cried to me apologizing for his son and said he was ashamed of how he treated us. we have 10 yrs of good memories and i cannot be apart of any disrespect to him. i have decided that regardless if i am viewed as family i'm his only daughter in law, i will sit in front with the rest of the immediate family i will pay my respects and not let his son nor anyone else take this from us. i will go with diginty and self respect and not feel as if i dont belong there let him look like the fool when everyone realizes that he is the one who is disrespecting his wife and kids at his fathers funeral. not me...

It's a shame you would keep yourself and your children from saying goodbye to a man you clearly loved and respected just because of a selfish act by your husband. To the best of my knowledge there isn't any legal action available to you, as it is your husbands father. Honestly, when I die, I hope that my family can get along well enough for everyone I care about and everyone they care about to come forward and say goodbye and know that I love them all, and hold no ill will, no matter what appearances others might assume disrespect me. I would say, "I'm dead, go in love, life is short." I hope that you can see way to do that for you and your children. Save the animosity for later. I am sorry about your loss, and I mean no disrespect.