DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.

You need to be happy, you only get one chance. I would seek counseling first before you make any decisions. Do something for yourself to build your confidence. Do you have any hobbies? Do you think your husband feels the same way you do? Maybe try talking to him.

Well you are married and I was not, but in a committed relationship for 11 years and it feels like a divorce. I raised her two children from ages 8 & 12. They are both in collage now and one graduates grad school in the spring. I knew the year before the second one entered collage that my relationship was over at some point after Andrew left the nest because I was unhappy and depressed back then. That was 2 years ago and I have spent the last two years trying to leave. II understand your feelings of unfullfillment and they will not go away without a commitment by both you and your partner to enter therapy and that may not be an option as in my case. When the last child is out of the home it will be just you and your unhappy feelings. I left my partner in early December. I can't say that I am mentally sound and ready to even date, but I am taking time for myself. Time to find out who I am and what I really want. I was also in a 26 year marriage prior to this past relationship that ended in divorce. I became involved with this past relationship only 3 months after leaving. Whatever you decide to do just take care of you first. Looking for what you were cheated out of to soon never works out. I am trying to do now what I did not do after my marriage broke up because my 11 year relationship has been worse emotionally and more unfullfilling than the marriage I had. Take care.