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I knew I shouldn't have married him after he didn't want sex, but got off on watching porn with two men.

I should have known not to marry him when I didn't have one orgasm in the four years we dated. :( 

I just knew in my gut that I shouldn't have married stbx when her family started telling me how good I was for her......arghhhhhh!

I knew he wasnt the person I thought he was when I discovered he was viewing porn the day we brought our daughter home form the hospital.

I knew the canyon between us was too far to cross when I stopped being concerned with our differences and just became indifferent.  I knew it would eventually end when we actually happy to have a room with two double beds on our anniversary night.

i knew i shouldn't have married him when he cheated on me while we were still dating.
i knew i shouldn't have married him when he cheated on me for 2 years with a woman he worked with after we were married for only 3 years.
i knew i shouldn't have married him when he used to introduce me to people as " this is D. my first wife"
i knew i shouldn't have married him when he cheated on me again for 2 years with another woman he met through work.

and so on, and so on, and so on.

gawd, how pathetic am i.  Love is truly blind, but now i can see. hallelluya!!!!

I knew I should have never married my husband when I found out he was cheating while we were dating.

I knew I shouldn't have married him when he left me 3 days after I found out  I was pregnant with our second child. I knew I shouldn't have gotten engaged when I had to put my engagement ring on my credit, and made the payments myself. I knew i shouldn't have married him when he stopped spending time with me and was away from home constantly, it was like pulling teeth to get him to be alone with me. Shoulda known better. Shoulda seen the truth.

I knew things were wrong when we left the marriage counselor's office after agreeing to a few homework assignments to work on, and he promised the counselor that he would do anything (with tears in his eyes) and as soon as we got to the parking lot he flat out announced he wasn't having any of it and it was all BS, but of course the following week when I tried to express my anger at the deception, he lied and said he'd never said any such thing and I was exaggerating as always and I was throwing up roadblocks that he was tired of fighting. The therapist believed him, partly because "it's obvious he cares or there wouldn't be tears in his eyes". Got NPD?

I knew things were seriously wrong when we left the fertility clinic, knowing I so desperately wanted a child after 2 miscarriages (I was 37 at the time) and the doctor told us he found nothing wrong and was certain we could have a child soon, the next step was for my ex to make his "donation".

My ex informed me that he would be happy to make the "donation" if I could prove to him that I promised to be good. He would give me two years to prove myself and if I was a good girl during those two years he would at that time allow me to have a child.

I told him I would be 39, that our window for having children was closing quickly, and his response was that it was in my hands, and if I was worried about timelines than I should start working on my behavior ASAP. Which included, he instructed me, letting him do whatever he wanted without complaint or backtalk...taking a backseat and letting him make all decisions without complaint, etc etc. and not getting in the way of his hobbies.

I knew I shouldn't have married my ex when I found out he'd lied about a series of documents he'd had me sign.
 
    What he told me was a paper for home insurance was actually a quit-claim deed signing away my rights to our home.

    When I found out and confronted him he seriously was at a loss as to why that would have upset me. He told me if I truly loved him it shouldn't matter as long as I had a roof over my head and he pointed this out as another example of how I was always over-reacting.

    I knew I shouldn't have married him while at the doctor's office for my final ultrasound while recovering from a second miscarriage and he was whining in the waiting room because it was his birthday and I was going to have to "owe him one" since he was sacrificing his special day to be there.

Oh, I knew I shouldn't have married him when he crapped his pants because he was so drunk...

I knew I shouldn't have married him when his ex girlfriend texted him Congrats at the exact time our wedding was starting...

I new there was a problem when we got engaged and his whole family said good now hes your problem....
I also knew there was a problem when no one in his family came to our wedding....hmmmm

I knew I shouldn't have married him when after six months of dating he told me he was actually 10 years not 5 years older than me.  That figure turned to 15!  (it was his brother's idea of a step plan" 

I knew I shouldn't have married him when I learned shortly after said above that he had been married (twice) and had a 10 year old kid.

I knew I shouldn't have married him when he chased off my friends.

I knew I shouldn't have married him when I learned all the wining and dining he did was on credit/

I was such a young, stupid, naive fool....  I believed his every excuse.  I was "In Love"  Ha!!

I knew I should have gone through with the divorce when during reconciliation she continued the affair.  I really knew I should have gone through with it when I found out there have been others......

I realized it is better we are divorced now that I see how much better things can be. I realized it was better when I no longer had to try to please someone that is so critical, they can't be pleased.

I wish I knew I shouldn't have...but I SHOULD'VE known I shouldn't have married him when:
-I gave up my job and moved across the country to be with him and told my whole family and all my friends we were engaged and when I got here he wouldn't tell his parents or his kids.
-He couldn't go to any sports games, concerts, events, etc without getting into a fight with someone (verbal)
-I found out my engagement ring cost $300 when I brought it in to be re-sized, then "upgraded" it myself and ended up buying both his and my wedding ring
-He wanted to play poker and drink on our honeymoon more than he wanted to spend time with me
-He screamed at me on our honeymoon
-He refused to contribute to the rent, food, or any of our other expenses
-His solution to any disagreement or discussion was to stomp off angrily or threaten to kill himself
-He took himself on vacation rather than paying back any portion of the $15,000 he owed to his parents who are living off social security in a double-wide and barely making it
-He regularly read his daughter's diary
-He accidentally texted me to "take my pants off" when he meant to text it to another woman he was "sexting" & sharing pics with
-He owed money to the IRS, his parents, against his IRA, and more yet gambled all night in Vegas with MY money
I can't stop!

1.  I knew he was lying about why he was leaving when I found out about the other woman.

2.  I knew my life would change when I found out I was going to become a divorcee.

3.  I knew my life would keep getting better and better when I found out that I can release the hurt, anger, and bitterness and move on to be the person I'm meant to be.

I knew I did the absolute right thing by filing after the test results came back positive.

First Husband:  I knew I shouldn't marry him when 9 months before the wedding he changed overnight & decided he was going to "turn me into the person HE thought I should be" instead of loving me for who I was, which is what I had with him the first 9 months of our engagement (I was 22 when we got engaged, young...).  I knew I shouldn't marry him 3 months before our wedding, 1 month before our wedding, and even the weekend of our wedding but only went through it because my parents kept telling me that he was from the "right" kind of family and background and that I was just being immature as usual.   I knew I should've left him a month later when he had a fight with my best friend that almost came to blows and then I started to find out about what he did on our honeymoon with a chambermaid, and the weekend of our wedding, and at his bachelor party, and on and on throughout the three years I stayed.  I knew I should've left him the first time he left bruised on my arms from holding me too tightly in anger, or made me pass out by pushing me against the wall with his body until I couldn't breathe, or held me against the wall and punched holes around my head all the while telling me that there was nothing wrong with him, and that if I wasn't happy it was my own problem.  I knew I did the right thing when I moved out the minute he left for work one day when I spoke to him the next evening and he told me that had I tried to leave him in person I would've left with two broken arms and the shirt on my back.

That's the first husband.  #2, the STBX you probably can look at old posts to see the lovely things he's said to me the last 15 years.  He's so damaged, and somehow I've been able to forgive him and we are friends and co-parent well now.  I don't associate in any way with the first husband.  He can choke on a chicken bone for all I care.

I knew our marriage was in trouble when he admitted he'd had gay sex with well over 100 men during the first half of our marriage.
I knew our marriage was in trouble when I caught him emailing a gay guy he found through the Internet.
I knew our marriage was in trouble when I saw in the computer's history he had done a Google search using the terms "guys fucking" and his reply to me was "so what"
I knew we were in really big trouble when on our 20th anniversary, he gave me a joke card with basically nothing but his signature on it. 
I knew we were in trouble when he refused to stop his emotional affairs with several others.
I knew the whole thing had blown up in my face when he announced over a cup of coffee that he was leaving me. Turns out he is in love with OW who has "cured him" of his gayness.

I knew I had found a deep peace and could move on with my life when I forgave my ex and myself for all that contributed to our divorce.

I knew I should have never married my ex when he INSISTED we go to his ex-girlfriend's wedding the night before ours.
I knew I should have never married my ex when his mom thanked me at the reception for teaching her son how to show affection.  
I knew I should have never married my ex when we were married 7 months, I was 8 weeks pregnant and I had to pick him up at the police station for picking up a prostitute.  I almost lost the baby, she's 21 now.
I knew I should have never married my ex when I could never get us ahead financially.  He was "stealing" from us since the beginning.
The list could go on and on.  But I have 2 beautiful girls and the rest of my life ahead of me.  So, if shoulda, woulda, coulda's aside....life goes on!

Great way to express your feelings! Even though mine a little different....

I knew I should have gotten out of the relationship sooner when she told me that she wouldn't move with me to another state that allows same sex marriage. Then I decided someone else was worthy of the ring I bought to give "HER"! Packing up and moving on.....

I knew my marriage should never have happened
when my ex told me she didnt think our marriage was worth saving and proceeded to explain for the 1st time to me in 15 yrs of being with her that she had an affair with her 40 yr old boss when she was 19.

I knew when i caught mt ex with another cell phone that she wasnt serious about patching things up